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08 Oct 2011, 12:21 pm

Hi, I am going to do a study on how people with AS can be successful.

If you consider yourself successful in any part of life would you be happy to share? I'll make a video as well, but if you don't want to be named, that's cool.



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08 Oct 2011, 12:34 pm

What do you need to know?

PM reply, please.


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08 Oct 2011, 1:28 pm

Well where you think you are successful for a start ;)



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08 Oct 2011, 1:49 pm

Things I Have Learned About Success:

1. Do what you know best. Chances are that this is what you love doing most, as well.

2. Never give up. Don't let anyone convince you that what you're doing will never work, unless of course it would violate any reasonable extrapolation of known scientific principles.

3. Learn all you can from a diversity of disciplines, and never stop learning. Knowledge of biology enabled the invention of organic LEDs, which are likely what you are looking at right now - they make up the majority of computer monitors these days.

4. Keep it legal / Do no evil. Cooperate with all legal authorities, and operate transparently whenever possible. Do not engage in affairs, shady deals, bribery, or any other practice that may be illegal somewhere.

5. Pay the prevailing wage, on time, to those who work for you.

6. Learn to negotiate, but never surrender control.

7. Surround yourself with intelligent, educated people that are not only willing and able to do what you tell them, but who are also able to advise you on how to do it more effectively, more efficiently, and more economically.

8. Re-invest profits in the business. New facilities, new equipment, and new minds help a business grow.

9. Never be afraid to say, "You're fired" to even your most trusted employees (You may not want to hire family, relatives, or friends because of this).

10. Never be afraid to try something new.

11. Never be afraid of continuing to do what works.

12. Never show fear.

13. Never beg. Adopt a "Take it or leave it" attitude when it comes to getting what you want.

14. Never apologize or admit guilt.

15. Never assume - know.

16. Always have an alternate plan.


... that should do for a start ...


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08 Oct 2011, 2:09 pm

I guess the meaning of success is different to everyone.
For many people I think it is about money and career status. I think to be successful means being happy with yourself and life thus creating a high self-esteem.
I feel successful as I have been in a great relationship for over four years and I am excited to see what will happen in my future.
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08 Oct 2011, 2:43 pm

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08 Oct 2011, 2:45 pm

Is this...

What do you think success means?

or

What successful things have you done?



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08 Oct 2011, 3:01 pm

Tetra wrote:
I guess the meaning of success is different to everyone. For many people I think it is about money and career status. I think to be successful means being happy with yourself and life thus creating a high self-esteem. I feel successful as I have been in a great relationship for over four years and I am excited to see what will happen in my future. :D

I am happiest with myself when I have lots of money, a fulfilling career, a great relationship, and high self-esteem.

Why settle for less?

As for being lucky: "Luck" is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Thus, a person makes his or her own luck. The Law of Attraction is bogus, just like the rest of all that spiritual, new age, hippy-jive nonsense. Intent without action is like faith without works - broken and meaningless.


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08 Oct 2011, 3:06 pm

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08 Oct 2011, 3:11 pm

I Like the list Fnord... The only Issue I would have with that is #14. If you're dealing with a client, if refuse to accept that you or your business screwed something up, they will feel like you are blaming them - everyone makes mistakes from time to time. This is especially true if you have employees, and one of them made the mistake, the last thing you should do is throw them under the bus. I think it might be better to admit that it was a mistake or an over-site, an then go out of your way to make it right.

I would consider success a line where you have the things that make you happy. I don't think anyone should stop at that line. For me, I consider myself Business and financially successful, but, Socially I haven't hit that line yet.



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08 Oct 2011, 3:26 pm

I've told my story before so I'll spare you the details, but personally I attribute my success to the following things:

1. I developed a unique talent suited to my AS that was economically valuable.

2. I did not rely "climbing the corporate ladder" as my vehicle for meeting my objectives, I instead created my own niche independent of it.

3. Being aware of your weaknesses is almost as important as being aware of your strengths.

4. Entrepreneurship should be a very serious consideration, if you are relying on NTs to promote you or decide how much to pay you, you may be at a serious disadvantage.



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08 Oct 2011, 3:32 pm

Simonono wrote:
Is this...

What do you think success means?

or

What successful things have you done?


Sorry if this wasn't clear.

I want to know why people think they are a success. One example may me "I do well in relationships + elaboration" Someone elses may be "I have a high paying job"



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08 Oct 2011, 3:35 pm

Fnord wrote:
I am happiest with myself when I have lots of money (...) Why settle for less?

There was some guy got nailed to a tree a while back for suggesting people shouldn't be too enamoured of money and should instead spend their time and energy on being good people. He was right.

Fnord wrote:
As for being lucky: "Luck" is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Thus, a person makes his or her own luck.

If that were true, the world would be full of happy people.


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08 Oct 2011, 3:35 pm

xowe wrote:
I Like the list Fnord... The only Issue I would have with that is #14. If you're dealing with a client, if refuse to accept that you or your business screwed something up, they will feel like you are blaming them - everyone makes mistakes from time to time. This is especially true if you have employees, and one of them made the mistake, the last thing you should do is throw them under the bus. I think it might be better to admit that it was a mistake or an over-site, an then go out of your way to make it right.

"4. Keep it legal / Do no evil. Cooperate with all legal authorities, and operate transparently whenever possible. Do not engage in affairs, shady deals, bribery, or any other practice that may be illegal somewhere." Do this, and any mistakes will be easily correctable

But if you want to point fingers and place blame, you may have to wait a long time before the mistake gets corrected. Do you want an apology, or do you want to correct the mistake? I'm all for correction, but if you want to haggle about who is at fault, who should apologize, and how much emotional damage you've suffered, then have your lawyers contact my lawyers, and in three or four years we may reach a settlement. Otherwise, let's work on correction and making sure that what happened never happens again, even if it means that the actual culprit eventually ends up "under the bus" or on the unemployment line.
xowe wrote:
I would consider success a line where you have the things that make you happy. I don't think anyone should stop at that line. For me, I consider myself Business and financially successful, but, Socially I haven't hit that line yet.

I'd like to be more socially successful, but while I may have fewer friends than Paris Hilton, the friends I have are both loyal and true.


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08 Oct 2011, 3:44 pm

Surfman wrote:
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I don't get it? You said it twice....



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08 Oct 2011, 3:55 pm

Ambivalence wrote:
Fnord wrote:
I am happiest with myself when I have lots of money (...) Why settle for less?

There was some guy got nailed to a tree a while back for suggesting people shouldn't be too enamored of money and should instead spend their time and energy on being good people.

His "good deeds" did not go unpunished. I, for one, have no desire to be nailed to a cross.

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He was right.

That is debatable.

Ambivalence wrote:
Fnord wrote:
As for being lucky: "Luck" is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Thus, a person makes his or her own luck.

If that were true, the world would be full of happy people.

People generally do not prepare for opportunity, chasing instead their own idealistic fantasies and dreams of being discovered as the next Great Talent, thus setting themselves up for disappointment and misery. Unrealistic expectations - that is why the world is not full of happy people.


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