Do people with ASD really prefer to be alone?

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Rocket123
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07 Jun 2013, 9:51 pm

I do. It’s peaceful.



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07 Jun 2013, 10:00 pm

Rocket123 wrote:
I do. It’s peaceful.


So do I.

Actually, Jayo is right about the stereotype part though. A stereotype is something that is usually true, but not always.



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07 Jun 2013, 11:28 pm

Nambo wrote:
I would say I prefer to be with somebody, and prefer to be alone, so I cannot win either way, its like the adage some men say about women, "you cant live with them, and you cant live without them.

I hate being alone all the time, but when Iam with people, I realise I would rather be alone.


I couldn't have said it better than this.



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07 Jun 2013, 11:53 pm

I have a family and I really look forward to times when I can be home alone. I do NEED more alone time than I get.
I used to live alone and thrived, but did occasionally get quite lonely, so the memory of that keeps me appreciating my family, even though sometimes I struggle with the constancy of their presence.
I think an 80-90% alone time to 10-20% company time would be best for me. I find that if I get enough of a break from socializing, that I can actually enjoy it when I do it, but without enough of a break, I dread it and get quite stressed out.

Being around the distraction of others is tiring. For me, it feels like playing mental tennis, non-stop, and it feel like it is imposed on me, and I am not allowed to rest to have time to recuperate, to finish the thoughts that are trying to be 'thunk' in my head. If it goes on for too long, I can get angry and resentful that people won't leave me alone.
My family can drive me nuts, but they do back off a bit at times because I think they know I need it. I have explained to them that I will take my anger out on them without meaning to, and it will be because I get so stressed out, so please wait until whenever, and I will do whatever. They usually put up with my 'moods', by avoiding me until the storm blows over.
They are awesome.



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08 Jun 2013, 12:16 am

I thought that it would be best for me to be alone several years back. However, I regrettably know now that I need social interaction with other people and someone close to talk to. I am often bored while alone and feel empty.



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08 Jun 2013, 2:35 am

SaveTigers wrote:
mackico wrote:
I like my alone time, but I get lonely, and do enjoy structured activies with other people.

So... a bit of both.


Yes! Time around others is much more enjoyable if it's a structured activity. That's why parties are so difficult for me-- way too free form.


Ditto..... I can't understand the popularity of free form, as in parties. Why would people give up the chance to go out and do something interesting rather than be cooped up in a boring party? :lol: