How does everyone function in nightclubs

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07 Jan 2014, 2:57 pm

Oh, I forgot about those days, in San Diego/Tijuana in the 80's. I used to go to the night clubs so that I could get lost in the music. There were some very good mix masters back then who made music sound like it was from a different world compared to when you heard it on the radio.



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07 Jan 2014, 3:00 pm

I was dragged to one once in my 20s by my sister and her fiancee. I just sat there. Then I began to overload big time and after a half hour I said, "We have to go, NOW!" and I got up and barely made it to the door because I couldn't get my bearings. They thought I was being ridiculous, but it was a matter of survival for me, so I didn't care what they thought.



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07 Jan 2014, 4:08 pm

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Superficiality is the most valued thing in night clubs.

Only went to night clubs to get drunk, have a little fun and some experience with the ladies. Nothing serious would ever come out of meeting people in those places, it is all superficial.


I agree. It is very rare that someone will meet their future partner in a nightclub (can sometimes happen, but not often). That is why I get so annoyed when people tell me to go out if I want to meet a boyfriend, and nine time out of ten they're thinking of going out as in going to a nightclub. How can you actually get chatting to someone seriously if there's rowdy noise and people in the background? I've been asked out on a date just sitting on the bus.


Hmm..then let me invite you on a date 8) :wink:



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07 Jan 2014, 4:15 pm

I have never been in a nightclub. I don't think I can function in a nightclub.


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07 Jan 2014, 4:36 pm

aspiemike wrote:
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I agree. It is very rare that someone will meet their future partner in a nightclub (can sometimes happen, but not often). That is why I get so annoyed when people tell me to go out if I want to meet a boyfriend, and nine time out of ten they're thinking of going out as in going to a nightclub. How can you actually get chatting to someone seriously if there's rowdy noise and people in the background? I've been asked out on a date just sitting on the bus.


You sound very sincere and nice. What would be the ideal place for you to meet friends and potential suitors?


Anywhere really. I believe you've got to be in the right place at the right time. It isn't always about pushing yourself to go to noisy places you don't want to go to. Sometimes you'd be surprised where you meet someone. They say usually worthy friendships or love relationships start where and when you least expect it. My aunt works in a supermarket, and a regular customer kept coming in, and they got friendly with each other. Now it's nearly 11 years later and she's still with him, and they still do things together as a loving couple. They never married, but she moved in with him 8 years ago. Now it feels like he's part of the family.

But the trouble is with me, I seem to attract married men a lot. I can usually recognise flirting and when someone takes an interest in me, but it's always the same; I find out they are married. Or if it is a single man, I'm never attracted to him in that way. I need a day to come where I have a man interested in me who is single and is my type. There's a single man at work who I would quite like to date, but I don't think he's interested in me in that way. I just know I'm not his type. He's big-built and good-looking, so obviously he's looking for a pretty girl with lots of confidence. I'm not pretty, I'm quite ugly-looking, and I'm not confident.


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07 Jan 2014, 7:49 pm

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Ear plugs, dancing, and tap water.

Ear plugs stop you getting overwhelmed by the sound, or worse, tinnitus.

Dancing helps you feel good, because it is exercise.

Tap water stops you from becoming dehydrated, because dancing makes you sweat.

I also think it is most enjoyable if enough of your friends go that they naturally break off into two or more groups. This means you don't have to be attached to people who don't want to dance, or want to dance too much.


Have you ever tried asking for water in a nightclub, well i have, i had to pay 15 $ for ½ liter of tap water. Most expensive water i ever drank, and didn even taste that good.



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07 Jan 2014, 7:51 pm

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Well I don't, I can count the times on one hand I've been dragged into nightclubs, its a horrible place. Crowded, lights, noises, rude people, bas behavior, everything costs a fortune. On top of all that you have to pay to get in.

No just no.


Yeah, this would be my answer too. It's a sensory hell and you have to bloody pay for the experience! I have been dragged a couple of times but *shutter* I would never go again.


Yeah having to pay is just the final insult. Yeah come and pay to have a horrible time, what a great deal.



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07 Jan 2014, 9:35 pm

I don't function in nightclubs.


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07 Jan 2014, 11:11 pm

I haven't been to one in over 10 years. From what I remember, I used to function okay, but I didn't go very often. I liked dancing and that was the main reason I went. Sometimes I went by myself and sometimes I went with a friend. Either way I was really uncomfortable with the social aspects of it. I didn't go to meet people, I just liked dancing to loud music.

I used to go to a gay club thinking it would be mostly gay guys and no one would hit on me. But I still had people hitting on me, both male and female. It made me really uncomfortable and I didn't know how to handle it so I stopped going. That was the part I had the most trouble with. I just wanted to dance by myself without people groping me.



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07 Jan 2014, 11:55 pm

loner1984 wrote:
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Ear plugs, dancing, and tap water.

Ear plugs stop you getting overwhelmed by the sound, or worse, tinnitus.

Dancing helps you feel good, because it is exercise.

Tap water stops you from becoming dehydrated, because dancing makes you sweat.

I also think it is most enjoyable if enough of your friends go that they naturally break off into two or more groups. This means you don't have to be attached to people who don't want to dance, or want to dance too much.


Have you ever tried asking for water in a nightclub, well i have, i had to pay 15 $ for ½ liter of tap water. Most expensive water i ever drank, and didn even taste that good.


Whoever decided to charge you $15 for tap water is a jerk. Plain and simple. Noone has ever asked me for money just because I wanted some water.. never.


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08 Jan 2014, 2:40 am

With alcohol.


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08 Jan 2014, 8:04 am

loner1984 wrote:
The_Walrus wrote:
Ear plugs, dancing, and tap water.

Ear plugs stop you getting overwhelmed by the sound, or worse, tinnitus.

Dancing helps you feel good, because it is exercise.

Tap water stops you from becoming dehydrated, because dancing makes you sweat.

I also think it is most enjoyable if enough of your friends go that they naturally break off into two or more groups. This means you don't have to be attached to people who don't want to dance, or want to dance too much.


Have you ever tried asking for water in a nightclub, well i have, i had to pay 15 $ for ½ liter of tap water. Most expensive water i ever drank, and didn even taste that good.

Yes, otherwise I wouldn't suggest it.

A lot of nightclubs over here are legally obliged to provide free tap water as part of their licensing agreement. If you're at one that doesn't have that requirement and they do try and charge you, you can get the cheapest soft drink possible.



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09 Jan 2014, 10:54 am

clubs and i dont mix... not a bit......its a sure fire way to a melt down...



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09 Jan 2014, 10:58 am

Never been to a nightclub, and I strongly doubt I'll ever have any interest in one.


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09 Jan 2014, 11:07 am

I went a couple of times with friends in college. I liked that they boosted my confidence-- I'm a fairly good dancer when I'm dancing on my own. As long as I maintain positive control of my movements and don't have to "sync" to anything but the beat, I'm good. What bothered me was that people just came up to me and started dancing on me or grinding on me without so much as a, "Want to dance?" My primary sensory sensitivity is touch, so that really bothered me. I'd generally finish the song, then smile tightly, say, "Thanks," and resume dancing alone. The only meltdown-ish thing I had was when one guy came up behind me, started dancing on me and actually started KISSING MY NECK. On instinct, I turned around and punched him in the face. It was just WAY out of my comfort zone and I was sparring a couple of times per week, so physical response was conditioned into me at that point. Ugh. I don't know who on Earth would think that kissing strangers' body parts is okay. It makes me shudder just remembering it.



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09 Jan 2014, 11:50 am

I've been to a nightclub once or twice, the first one was fine but perhaps because it was an unusual one it didn't bother me much, a lot of the people there were fairly weird. The lights don't bother me much and it's usually darker inside the clubs I've been at, also the music was loud but I like electronic dance music so I was not annoyed at it. The other club I went to I couldn't handle, it was a rock club and the speakers were screeching music, I had a huge dissociative experience at that event and I do not recall it as well, also the drinks were overpriced.

I went to a few huge dance parties when I was younger, I really enjoyed those as you could be as weird as you wanted, it was dark as well and they had a room dedicated to just chilling out in at a few of them, made for the people who were on drugs and had similar sensitivity issues, heh. I never was on drugs myself but since people always assumed I was it was much easier to play it off at these places as just having a bad trip/too much to drink or whatever.