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TazCrystal
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20 May 2019, 8:33 pm

I have a difficult time with my speech. I started talking a bit late. My parents thought I was deaf for a bit. I wasn't.

I can speak well but I choose not to that often. Whenever I have to talk I blush and don't say things the right way. I have to think for a while for things to say. I practice conversations. When I am online and typing , I do well because I have enough time to think. I hate when people comment about my speech or laugh about it. I was made fun of in school because I say things funny and I sometimes speak in incomplete sentences. I felt scared to speak in school.

I also have issues where I laugh when I am nervous. I also fidget when nervous and not sure what to say.

Also people assume that I don't know a lot because of the way I talk and because I don't talk a lot. People over explain things to me. They also are surprised when I know facts and when they figure out I read long books



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24 May 2019, 9:20 am

TazCrystal wrote:
I have a difficult time with my speech. I started talking a bit late. My parents thought I was deaf for a bit. I wasn't.

I can speak well but I choose not to that often. Whenever I have to talk I blush and don't say things the right way. I have to think for a while for things to say. I practice conversations. When I am online and typing , I do well because I have enough time to think. I hate when people comment about my speech or laugh about it. I was made fun of in school because I say things funny and I sometimes speak in incomplete sentences. I felt scared to speak in school.

I also have issues where I laugh when I am nervous. I also fidget when nervous and not sure what to say.

Also people assume that I don't know a lot because of the way I talk and because I don't talk a lot. People over explain things to me. They also are surprised when I know facts and when they figure out I read long books


Hi, this is a common issue for Aspergers. (don't know if you are one)
I used to react very slow to conversations with other people, but what really made me become good at conversating is practicing a lot with my family members.

I remember my parents telling me that when I was 2 years old I spoke so much that the other adults could not speak anymore (I know this is the opposite from your situation)

For me personally, it is much more an issue thinking about having to speak than speaking itself.
When I'm with a person, in a class, or just in a social situation and I know I will have to speak I tend to become anxious and think too much. I think this is not your problem by what I read but we also both have our difficulties. Me before speaking, you when speaking. What I can honestly suggest you to do is:
1) try to practice with your family members to have a conversation about different topics ( or with someone you know won't judge you/make fun of you)
2) don't be shy, if you can't help being distracted by other actions surrounding the person you are speaking with, try to look them in the eyes just like an NT would do. (this might be very hard at the beginning, it is still for me, but it worked to stop me from being distracted by the stuff happening in the surrounding area)

Hope this help! :)



TazCrystal
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26 May 2019, 8:11 pm

BlossX wrote:
TazCrystal wrote:
I have a difficult time with my speech. I started talking a bit late. My parents thought I was deaf for a bit. I wasn't.

I can speak well but I choose not to that often. Whenever I have to talk I blush and don't say things the right way. I have to think for a while for things to say. I practice conversations. When I am online and typing , I do well because I have enough time to think. I hate when people comment about my speech or laugh about it. I was made fun of in school because I say things funny and I sometimes speak in incomplete sentences. I felt scared to speak in school.

I also have issues where I laugh when I am nervous. I also fidget when nervous and not sure what to say.

Also people assume that I don't know a lot because of the way I talk and because I don't talk a lot. People over explain things to me. They also are surprised when I know facts and when they figure out I read long books


Hi, this is a common issue for Aspergers. (don't know if you are one)
I used to react very slow to conversations with other people, but what really made me become good at conversating is practicing a lot with my family members.

I remember my parents telling me that when I was 2 years old I spoke so much that the other adults could not speak anymore (I know this is the opposite from your situation)

For me personally, it is much more an issue thinking about having to speak than speaking itself.
When I'm with a person, in a class, or just in a social situation and I know I will have to speak I tend to become anxious and think too much. I think this is not your problem by what I read but we also both have our difficulties. Me before speaking, you when speaking. What I can honestly suggest you to do is:
1) try to practice with your family members to have a conversation about different topics ( or with someone you know won't judge you/make fun of you)
2) don't be shy, if you can't help being distracted by other actions surrounding the person you are speaking with, try to look them in the eyes just like an NT would do. (this might be very hard at the beginning, it is still for me, but it worked to stop me from being distracted by the stuff happening in the surrounding area)

Hope this help! :)


Thank you. I think practising with people is a really good idea. My parents don’t judge. Eye contact is difficult for me though. I will do it though. I really want to improve my communication skills. I feel like I could do better at a job if I was better at communicating. People think I am too old to not be good at it



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26 May 2019, 10:03 pm

TazCrystal wrote:
I really want to improve my communication skills. I feel like I could do better at a job if I was better at communicating. People think I am too old to not be good at it


One organization that helps individuals improve their verbal communications skills is called Toastmasters.
Here is a link. Toastmasters International
I pulled up a map and it looks like there are around 300 clubs in the greater Los Angeles area. So there is probably one near you.


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27 May 2019, 8:46 am

Likewise

Except I don't find many things funny

And the things that are funny, are not that funny

Nor should they be

"Most people" talk too much and too loudly and there are too many of them. They act like they have a moral right to be happy at all times and. Whenever they are not happy, someone must have violated their stupidass "rights"


They act like , every thought and emotion that goes through their head is the latest greatest scientific invention. When I say something they half listen and grunt "what" and "huh" as though it is the etiquette equivalent of

" excuse me"



20/20 hearing

Their loud voices are annoying