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Thundragon
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27 Aug 2020, 2:53 am

So i found this chat group that had similar interests to me and spent a short while on it. I invited the only other two people i spoke to at the time (which i found through feedback to a story i posted online) and they don't seem to care about me anymore. They started conversing with the other members of the chatroom that i was starting to become friends with and seemed to have a lot more fun with them than when im around. Everyone in the chatroom seems to do better when im not there, what the heck is wrong with me. I just can't make friends, no matter what i do nothing works. What have i done to deserve this eternal misery



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27 Aug 2020, 3:02 am

Perhaps mixing with aspies your own age might work out better? <comfort>


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27 Aug 2020, 3:05 am

Have you looked here?:
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27 Aug 2020, 4:21 pm

Thundragon wrote:
So i found this chat group that had similar interests to me and spent a short while on it. I invited the only other two people i spoke to at the time (which i found through feedback to a story i posted online) and they don't seem to care about me anymore. They started conversing with the other members of the chatroom that i was starting to become friends with and seemed to have a lot more fun with them than when im around. Everyone in the chatroom seems to do better when im not there, what the heck is wrong with me. I just can't make friends, no matter what i do nothing works. What have i done to deserve this eternal misery


Try to find out why people don't like you. People didn't like me because I was too negative, too sensitive, wasn't being myself, and was trying too hard. What helped me was improving my self-esteem, being myself, and overcoming my anxiety and sensitivity to criticism. The information on the site https://autismcbt.wordpress.com/ helped me with self-esteem, stress, anxiety, and being too sensitive.



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31 Aug 2020, 6:47 am

Thundragon wrote:
So i found this chat group that had similar interests to me and spent a short while on it. I invited the only other two people i spoke to at the time (which i found through feedback to a story i posted online) and they don't seem to care about me anymore. They started conversing with the other members of the chatroom that i was starting to become friends with and seemed to have a lot more fun with them than when im around. Everyone in the chatroom seems to do better when im not there, what the heck is wrong with me. I just can't make friends, no matter what i do nothing works. What have i done to deserve this eternal misery


There is nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with them. If they can't attempt to include you, then they aren't for you. One other thing to keep in mind, maybe they have distinct personalities than you do. Evidently, personalities can be picked up in chatrooms.

I recommend checking out books by Dr. Wendler and Dr. Schumway