Did anyone else used to cry all the time as a teenager?

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11 Sep 2020, 6:40 pm

I am aware that crying as common particularly in teenage girls, but I'm talking about the reason of the crying that is different to what's normal.

Like I would often just cry for reasons a toddler might cry about, like wanting something I can't have. I remember when I was 14 we were outside our house saying goodbye to family who were just leaving after a visit, and I asked my mum what we were having for dinner and I didn't want what she said we were having, so I just stood there crying without even hiding my face and I didn't even say goodbye to my family because I was too busy crying. Looking back I can imagine a 2-year-old crying like that for that sort of reason at a completely inappropriate time (standing there crying because you want something you can't have for dinner when you should be saying goodbye to your relatives, at 14 years old, is not that normal).

Uh, I was such a big baby when I was a teenager. :oops:


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11 Sep 2020, 7:37 pm

Interesting post!

My emotions have always been...weird. Aside from crying while being berated/punished/failing at something, I don't remember crying much outside of having extreme bouts of depressed moods and self-pity. I would have these phases about 1-2 times a year where for a few days I would just be an emotional wreck (this began when I was around 9-10). I would even think about suicide during these times; I'm not sure chemically what was going on to make me hit that kind of a low, because once it was over, it was...over! And because I found this process so unpleasant, I began as a teenager to slowly reject the emotion of sadness to the point that I now have difficulty crying even when I really want to or need to (still happens sometimes, usually in a really intense moment unfortunately). I've messed myself up a bit it seems :?

BUT, I did actually throw 'fits' similar to what you're describing. Recently I had someone point out that maybe inexplicable crying, or throwing a fit over something seemingly small or childish was the result of being overwhelmed and at my limit, sensory-wise. Mini story: I was young here, 7, but old enough to know even at the time that this was inappropriate - I received a gift at a school gift exchange and was so disappointed by what I got that I started crying a lot and throwing a fit. It was really embarrassing, even at the time, because I wasn't typically known for bratty behavior like that. Another girl actually gave me her gift, haha, an alarm clock which I used for years. Anyhow, I still don't quite know where it came from. And I have gotten to the point of tears even in my 20s over small things like my brother snapping at me for being too impatient for a meal. I don't know...it takes me back to the point of the whole 'at my limit' thing. That maybe those of us on the spectrum, dealing with everyday things that are harder for us or cause more stress, leads to something small or 'childish' pushing us past our breaking point? Only speculating.



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11 Sep 2020, 7:41 pm

Shoot, I cry all of the time in my Fifties---and I'm a dude.


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11 Sep 2020, 10:18 pm

I don't cry much since ages 10+.

All I know was that I cried more than I would've as a toddler and as a child.



I don't cry much as a teenager.

Instead, I was angry and frustrated all the time.
People won't get tears from me, they'd either get violence or walked out on.

Only times I could've cried then, were times I had to freeze myself than naturally fight back with violence, or choose to flee and walk away.

I usually have the choice of actions under overreaction -- I always have the power to walk away, or shove the person back.
Yet I had little control of anything more complex than that, which just adds more layers of frustration.


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11 Sep 2020, 11:30 pm

I certainly cried over silly kid stuff when I was much younger. In more recent years the only reasons why I cry would be if I was having a meltdown or more frequently, because of something someone said to me that made me feel bad about myself. Given my aspergers and ADHD, I sure have had a lot of people say harsh things to me over the years.



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13 Sep 2020, 2:52 am

I haven't actively cried that much since I was a kid, but I get the feeling of wanting to cry whenever I get overly frustrated, which is quite often. I only recently can make myself actually cry again.


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15 Sep 2020, 5:20 pm

Yes, and I still cry all the time as an adult.

As a teenager, my mom would abuse me emotionally by getting mad every time I would cry. That being said, I have learned that she's a narcissistic abuser, and she has untreated BPD.

I would cry if

1. I was stressed out
2. If my family members were bullying me
3. If I got bullied in school
4. I didn't have a date to a formal or a boyfriend
5. If there was a change in friendship - like a close friend getting a boyfriend and suddenly the dynamics were different
6. If my friends in school suddenly started acting cool and began talking down to me for "Acting inappropriate"
7. If they shut me out of a group

Stupid things
1. Leonardo DiCaprio was my teen idol and if someone didn't like him, I would cry
2. I didn't enjoy doing homework
3. My parents would not let me bring anything "Lion King" or "Aladdin" to Jr High
4. My sister got things that have "The Lion King in them" because she was 7 and I was 13
5. Overnot getting a soda



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15 Sep 2020, 5:34 pm

No, and I get very upset (without crying) when people think that not showing the "proper" or expected emotional response makes you heartless, especially as a woman.



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18 Sep 2020, 10:59 pm

I would cry at home because I was really stressed out. I had issues with anxiety and health I wasn't dealing with properly which I think led to these outbursts. It was over stuff like homework or when I didn't think my family was taking me seriously. When I started to take my mental and physical health more seriously the crying started to lesson.



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19 Sep 2020, 12:26 pm

I did. Often over things that people would consider trivial. But looking back I don't see how it's so much to ask for others to either be nice to me or leave me alone!


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25 Sep 2020, 6:11 pm

I just feel ashamed when I look back at myself as a teenager because of the way I acted like a toddler so much. One time when I was 15 I couldn't find where I'd put my math homework, and I lay on the kitchen floor crying at my mum's feet, and she just shouted, "you're such a big baby!" And she was right. What normal 15-year-old lays on the floor crying over a bit of homework? :oops: :roll:

I know teenagers can be sulky, whiny and emotional, but there are different standards when it comes to this sort of thing. A normal teenager might get angry if they can't find their homework causing them to yell or argue with their parents, or they will just go and look for it themselves. But laying on the kitchen floor crying is just so babyish. :oops:


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