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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Bullied at work specifically because of ASD |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2023, 7:30 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 306
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| Always thought it was incredibly tactless that people could pick on those with disabilities, although this instance wasn't what I was really expecting honestly. We need more support, not less, and bullying is one of the worst things a person can experience, particularly when they're struggling with... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Is it okay to just not have friends? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2023, 11:47 pm
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Replies: 43
Views: 2,166
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| I had a few friends in elementary school. By the end of elementary school, however, all but one of my friends had moved away. In middle school, the friendship with the one remaining friend fizzled out. During high school, I would sometimes hang out with neighbor kids. However, they'd likely want not... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: UCLA student hid the fact he was autistic |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2023, 2:09 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I actually know what percentage of students in universities in Australia are autistic/ADHD. it's around 12% The suspicion in university circles is there is even more students who are NT passing and certain STEM related courses (Math and Physics) the staff are likely undiagnosed. Yeah, I'm NT-passin... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Has anyone else been on both sides of the bullying equation? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 09 Mar 2023, 9:22 am
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Replies: 6
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| Being the smallest kid in my class in elementary school (combined with being on the spectrum), obviously I got bullied. I also became a bully. There was a kid 5 years younger than me across the street. I bullied him. I feel terrible about it in retrospect. All I wanted was to feel powerful (since I ... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: UCLA student hid the fact he was autistic |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2023, 12:13 pm
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Replies: 3
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| https://news.yahoo.com/hid-autistic-during-first-few-201610389.html I found an article a lot of us can probably relate to. Cliffnotes: Student hid the fact he was autistic (and attempted to do "normal person" stuff like parties, sports games, etc). He ended up wearing himself thin. Eventu... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Bullied at work specifically because of ASD |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2023, 9:40 am
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Replies: 5
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| What sort of behaviour did he find highly unacceptable? To avoid potentially identifying myself, I'm going to be vague. The behaviors he found highly unacceptable fell under 2 main umbrellas: 1. I unknowingly committed some faux pas with customers. 2. Like a lot of people on the spectrum, I have a ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men |
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Posted: 08 Mar 2023, 9:07 am
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Replies: 231
Views: 7,129
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I can say this much: I am an attractive (but socially awkward) guy.
I've seen guys with much worse looks (but without social awkwardness) have a lot more luck than me with attracting a partner. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The outside world falsely thinking you're upset/closed off |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 6:03 pm
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Replies: 9
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| The poker face could explain why I sometimes get mistaken for a cop. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers & Mental Age |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 1:58 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,149
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| Mental age is a demeaning concept. It's always used to say someone is younger mentally than their physical age and deny them things. My mother wouldn't let me learn to drive at 16 or get a part time job because "You're younger mentally". I also was forced to basically babysit this bratty ... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Is Anglophilia common for people on the spectrum? |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 1:48 pm
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Replies: 67
Views: 980
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| We don't speak in that snooty cockney accent, at least not any more. Cor blimey, speak for yourself, guv'nor. I didn't actually realise how disliked the British are by Americans in general. I mean, I don't blame them, I just didn't know. A few years back I was listening to a podcaster I liked and h... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The outside world falsely thinking you're upset/closed off |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 1:37 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I've noticed I often get mistaken for being upset/closed off. This past week, a coworker told me it's because I have a poker face. When he said that, it all fell into place. That coworker doesn't know I'm on the spectrum. Those of us on the spectrum, however, often have a hard time showing our emoti... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers & Mental Age |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 1:31 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,149
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| Because Autism/Asperger's is a developmental disorder. That is what a developmental disorder means. It means that the brain does not develop evenly. Each part of our brains develop separately and independently from all the other parts. In a neurotypical brain all the parts develop at relatively the... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Bullied at work specifically because of ASD |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2023, 1:26 pm
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Replies: 5
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| Most, if not all, of us have been bullied at work. My question though is: Who here has been bullied specifically because of being on the spectrum? I certainly have. At a past job, 2 months into the job, my boss said something to the effect of: "Your behavior has been highly unacceptable. I don'... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Is Anglophilia common for people on the spectrum? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2023, 1:13 pm
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Replies: 67
Views: 980
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babybird wrote: I don't know why this thread is in the haven. Is it a sensitive topic?
I wouldn't call it a sensitive topic. I just couldn't think of where else to put it. |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Is Anglophilia common for people on the spectrum? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2023, 1:11 pm
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Replies: 67
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| I’ve always been interested in the UK , probably because one grandfather was from Devon.I enjoy the tv shows. Did a lot of genealogy on family history there. I would love to travel there and see the gardens and old castles but that most likely will never happen. I have ancestry in the UK too. Yet s... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Is Anglophilia common for people on the spectrum? |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2023, 1:07 pm
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Replies: 67
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| My impression is that a lot of Americans and Canadians are Anglophiles? Not just people on the spectrum I'm not able to speak for Canadians. From what I've seen, very few Americans are Anglophiles. My 2 theories for why I rarely hear Americans saying anything positive about Britain: 1. The Revoluti... |
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