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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I cannot get focused on my job hunt |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 4:45 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 828
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| I'm learning that 'motivation' is tied to 'feeling' (e.g. I do/don't feel like doing it). Feelings are highly changeable. Even for a neuro-typical. That's why books and music soundtracks have been produced to tackle it. Apparently 'discipline' is more productive. 'Discipline' basically means 'The ru... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What's the best thing or job to do |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2022, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,430
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| Two previous jobs had both common and different characteristics. one was server in a café, the other was a factory. What they had in common was the noise and the fast pace. These are traditionally considered bad for ASD, but whereas I failed in café, I succeeded in the factory. And it came down to t... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Should I just take the job and keep looking? |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 07 Oct 2022, 4:29 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 319
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| Two main advantages to taking the job are: The money. The resume gap filler. The main thing is that you keep advancing your cause. A problem I used to have is that I'd take these survival jobs and forget to keep looking elsewhere. I'd take a job, settle into it, eventually lose the job, and end up e... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: When mental health issues have derailed your career progress |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 20 Sep 2022, 5:32 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 495
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| My mental health issue seems to be some kind of procrastination. I think about employment often. Wish I had a career. But I never make a decision and never make a move. It has started to become apparent in other areas of my life. I've gone as far as I can go in my karate by just turning up. But from... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Early 30s |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 12 Sep 2022, 5:25 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 546
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| The guy who diagnosed me years ago after a number of sessions looking into why I had such a sketchy job history, advised me to take a two year break on disability. He pointed out that 'just do anything' is a bad job strategy for an Aspie. So I was advised to use the two years to come to an understan... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Rant about work from the perspective of a 49/yr old Autistic |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2022, 6:11 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 600
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| It comes down to two main types of jobs. Survival Jobs: Do whatever you can get to put food on the table. Always at the mercy of the boss. Not much control of the direction things go. Career: You self-impose limits on your job choices in order to focus on an area that you wish to develop your skills... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Employers discriminating against people who don't drive? |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2022, 5:57 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,627
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| I once got a job that specifically wanted me to drive in order to do deliveries. I didn't have a license, so they had one of their staff drive me to wherever I needed to deliver. It was on the understanding that I'd do driving lessons. Alas, after several months and still no license, they had to let... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Moving? |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2022, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 494
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| My family moved across country several times when I was a kid, and after I grew up and got married, my wife and I moved across country again. Now we live in a small picturesque town (population 1500) that purportedly has the highest number of Ph.Ds and Volunteers per capita in the country. A good mi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Real cause of Asperger Syndrome |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 20 Jul 2022, 5:08 pm
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Replies: 127
Views: 4,491
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In my case, definitely genetic. My mother and at least one of her brothers. Mum was 21 when she had me.
Myself and all three of my brothers.
Now three of my sons.
Intergenerational and pervasive. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Mid-life or depression |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2022, 6:05 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 917
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| Maybe you could reassess where you want to go forward. Lets say that you don't mind the idea of working again in the future but either you don't want to go back to what you were doing before, or because you have money, any future job could be more about pleasure than profit. So you come up with a pl... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Would you ever take a job if you were me(2,000 dollar Rule) |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2022, 5:13 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 637
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| Would it be possible to focus on things that don't require much money? Maybe internet stuff. A lot of MOOCs are free. Networking and volunteering at your church. Chat with a pastor or priest about volunteering positions that might help with skill development. Assist with administration duties to lea... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Would you ever take a job if you were me(2,000 dollar Rule) |
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Posted: 02 Jul 2022, 5:26 pm
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Replies: 6
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| I've struggled with this question as well. I could probably pick fruit a couple of months a year, but if I worked too many consecutive hours and ended up getting kicked off welfare, where would I be when fruit picking season was over? Why risk disability for such a pointless small gain but big loss.... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I'm looking for some positive words... |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2022, 4:03 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,736
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| Not that I've been able to make it work, but the advice I got when first diagnosed in my 40s seems sound. Seeking 'jobs' isn't a great idea. A person could end up with anything, and a lot of jobs really don't suit us. Thus a bad situation keeps happening, time and again. Take a break (even a year if... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: What work do you do? |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2022, 4:48 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 6,381
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| Looking back over the jobs I've done, the tolerability seems to have been based on degrees of order vs chaos. So I worked in loud, noisy factories... but they were relatively well ordered with procedures that were easy to master and didn't require a lot of interaction. Basically good jobs. I also wo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having "ambition" in life |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 13 Mar 2022, 3:51 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 2,091
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cyberdad wrote: DoniiMann wrote:
So your ambition is to have an ambition?
I have plenty of ambition, like a fast car spinning it's wheels. What I don't have is a target, destination, or goal. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Having "ambition" in life |
| DoniiMann |
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Posted: 11 Mar 2022, 3:14 am
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Replies: 42
Views: 2,091
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| It's funny. I have a wife (20 years), several kids, own house, etc. But I'm unfulfilled and depressed. I've meditated on why and conclude it's because I don't have power and autonomy. I have the ambition itch. Every day I feel the desire to do, to achieve, to have a job or career. But I only leave t... |
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