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 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: I cannot get focused on my job hunt

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 4:45 pm 

Replies: 18
Views: 828

I'm learning that 'motivation' is tied to 'feeling' (e.g. I do/don't feel like doing it). Feelings are highly changeable. Even for a neuro-typical. That's why books and music soundtracks have been produced to tackle it. Apparently 'discipline' is more productive. 'Discipline' basically means 'The ru...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: What's the best thing or job to do

Posted: 01 Dec 2022, 4:27 pm 

Replies: 16
Views: 1,430

Two previous jobs had both common and different characteristics. one was server in a café, the other was a factory. What they had in common was the noise and the fast pace. These are traditionally considered bad for ASD, but whereas I failed in café, I succeeded in the factory. And it came down to t...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Should I just take the job and keep looking?

Posted: 07 Oct 2022, 4:29 pm 

Replies: 7
Views: 319

Two main advantages to taking the job are: The money. The resume gap filler. The main thing is that you keep advancing your cause. A problem I used to have is that I'd take these survival jobs and forget to keep looking elsewhere. I'd take a job, settle into it, eventually lose the job, and end up e...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: When mental health issues have derailed your career progress

Posted: 20 Sep 2022, 5:32 pm 

Replies: 4
Views: 495

My mental health issue seems to be some kind of procrastination. I think about employment often. Wish I had a career. But I never make a decision and never make a move. It has started to become apparent in other areas of my life. I've gone as far as I can go in my karate by just turning up. But from...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Early 30s

 Post subject: Re: Early 30s
Posted: 12 Sep 2022, 5:25 pm 

Replies: 9
Views: 546

The guy who diagnosed me years ago after a number of sessions looking into why I had such a sketchy job history, advised me to take a two year break on disability. He pointed out that 'just do anything' is a bad job strategy for an Aspie. So I was advised to use the two years to come to an understan...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Rant about work from the perspective of a 49/yr old Autistic

Posted: 01 Aug 2022, 6:11 pm 

Replies: 4
Views: 600

It comes down to two main types of jobs. Survival Jobs: Do whatever you can get to put food on the table. Always at the mercy of the boss. Not much control of the direction things go. Career: You self-impose limits on your job choices in order to focus on an area that you wish to develop your skills...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Employers discriminating against people who don't drive?

Posted: 01 Aug 2022, 5:57 pm 

Replies: 32
Views: 1,627

I once got a job that specifically wanted me to drive in order to do deliveries. I didn't have a license, so they had one of their staff drive me to wherever I needed to deliver. It was on the understanding that I'd do driving lessons. Alas, after several months and still no license, they had to let...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Moving?

 Post subject: Re: Moving?
Posted: 24 Jul 2022, 5:12 pm 

Replies: 5
Views: 494

My family moved across country several times when I was a kid, and after I grew up and got married, my wife and I moved across country again. Now we live in a small picturesque town (population 1500) that purportedly has the highest number of Ph.Ds and Volunteers per capita in the country. A good mi...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Real cause of Asperger Syndrome

Posted: 20 Jul 2022, 5:08 pm 

Replies: 127
Views: 4,491

In my case, definitely genetic. My mother and at least one of her brothers. Mum was 21 when she had me.

Myself and all three of my brothers.

Now three of my sons.

Intergenerational and pervasive.

 Forum: The Haven   Topic: Mid-life or depression

 Post subject: Re: Mid-life or depression
Posted: 16 Jul 2022, 6:05 pm 

Replies: 30
Views: 917

Maybe you could reassess where you want to go forward. Lets say that you don't mind the idea of working again in the future but either you don't want to go back to what you were doing before, or because you have money, any future job could be more about pleasure than profit. So you come up with a pl...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Would you ever take a job if you were me(2,000 dollar Rule)

Posted: 08 Jul 2022, 5:13 pm 

Replies: 6
Views: 637

Would it be possible to focus on things that don't require much money? Maybe internet stuff. A lot of MOOCs are free. Networking and volunteering at your church. Chat with a pastor or priest about volunteering positions that might help with skill development. Assist with administration duties to lea...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Would you ever take a job if you were me(2,000 dollar Rule)

Posted: 02 Jul 2022, 5:26 pm 

Replies: 6
Views: 637

I've struggled with this question as well. I could probably pick fruit a couple of months a year, but if I worked too many consecutive hours and ended up getting kicked off welfare, where would I be when fruit picking season was over? Why risk disability for such a pointless small gain but big loss....

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: I'm looking for some positive words...

Posted: 25 Mar 2022, 4:03 pm 

Replies: 13
Views: 2,736

Not that I've been able to make it work, but the advice I got when first diagnosed in my 40s seems sound. Seeking 'jobs' isn't a great idea. A person could end up with anything, and a lot of jobs really don't suit us. Thus a bad situation keeps happening, time and again. Take a break (even a year if...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: What work do you do?

 Post subject: Re: What work do you do?
Posted: 17 Mar 2022, 4:48 pm 

Replies: 49
Views: 6,381

Looking back over the jobs I've done, the tolerability seems to have been based on degrees of order vs chaos. So I worked in loud, noisy factories... but they were relatively well ordered with procedures that were easy to master and didn't require a lot of interaction. Basically good jobs. I also wo...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Having "ambition" in life

Posted: 13 Mar 2022, 3:51 pm 

Replies: 42
Views: 2,091

cyberdad wrote:
DoniiMann wrote:

So your ambition is to have an ambition?

I have plenty of ambition, like a fast car spinning it's wheels. What I don't have is a target, destination, or goal.

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Having "ambition" in life

Posted: 11 Mar 2022, 3:14 am 

Replies: 42
Views: 2,091

It's funny. I have a wife (20 years), several kids, own house, etc. But I'm unfulfilled and depressed. I've meditated on why and conclude it's because I don't have power and autonomy. I have the ambition itch. Every day I feel the desire to do, to achieve, to have a job or career. But I only leave t...
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