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 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Were you a pyromaniac?

 Post subject: Were you a pyromaniac?
Posted: 20 Jan 2022, 7:42 pm 

Replies: 19
Views: 315


I know, I put this in the General Autism category, b/c I'm wondering if anyone had a tendency to be obsessed with fire as a "special interest", enjoyed watching things burn, lighting matches on paper, wrappers, etc. When I was 13-14, I admit that I enjoyed playing with matches, to the poin...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Have any NTs said "you drive me insane"?

Posted: 14 Jan 2022, 1:57 pm 

Replies: 35
Views: 790


Yes, I've heard things about Kentucky in that regard...and I live up in Canada. Basically, one of those conservative states where there's been very little migration over the past several decades, compared to other states, so there's a certain intolerance for anything that doesn't "fit the mold&...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Have any NTs said "you drive me insane"?

Posted: 09 Jan 2022, 11:24 am 

Replies: 35
Views: 790


In your interactions with NTs, has any one of them ever said that "you drive me insane [sometimes]", or some variation of that?? And of course, it does little to allay their concerns if you stress positive intentions, e.g. "I never intended to drive you insane, sometimes I just find c...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Trouble distinguishing bullying from legit anger?

Posted: 24 Dec 2021, 3:35 pm 

Replies: 4
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I'm wondering if it's an "Aspie thing" or it's been your experience that you have a hard time telling whether someone's negative reaction is due to feeling genuinely p.o.'d by some perceived slight or missed unspoken expectation which you were completely unaware of, i.e. the more "rig...

 Forum: Work and finding a Job   Topic: Have you ever been demoted?

 Post subject: Have you ever been demoted?
Posted: 27 Nov 2021, 7:48 pm 

Replies: 1
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Wondering if anyone ever had the unfortunate experience of being demoted at work? And if so, was it based on your disclosure of ASD/HFA, or before that when they noticed something was "off", or...? I've come close to that, but it's been more being assigned crappier stuff below my IQ or cog...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do we misread hostility?

Posted: 15 Nov 2021, 12:53 pm 

Replies: 24
Views: 643


Sometimes I feel like every person I interact with could, at any moment, without warning, become furious at me for no apparent reason. This is mostly left over from my experiences as a teenager and a 20-something, when many people assumed I was giving them "attitude" and responded with ho...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do we misread hostility?

 Post subject: Do we misread hostility?
Posted: 14 Nov 2021, 2:29 pm 

Replies: 24
Views: 643


I know it's often been said that Aspies lack the nonverbal fluency to tell if someone is being subtly hostile with them (like, micro-aggressions, veiled insults, petty put-downs or faint praise, etc.) which can get us into some unpleasant or embarrassing situations...but what about the reverse?? Has...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Have you detected fear in females around you?

Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 4:06 pm 

Replies: 25
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Question for Aspie males really. Have you detected fear in females around you? Like either in class, work, public places, on a date even..? This is why I spent a lot of practice watching female body language and gradually got better at it, and increased my confidence. Since I had the looks, physique...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Has anyone said, "you need to get serious help"??

Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 3:54 pm 

Replies: 20
Views: 624


Has anyone said, "you need to get serious help"?? Yes, my ex-wife -- a gin-swilling, pill-popping, manic-depressive psycho-demon witch queen who divorced me so that she could marry her wealthy boyfriend. I never acted on her advice. OK well I think I'm picking up a theme here...people who...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Has anyone said, "you need to get serious help"??

Posted: 12 Nov 2021, 3:39 pm 

Replies: 20
Views: 624


Yes, that old psychological affront, where someone tells you "you're not OK (but I am)". Basically, lumping us in with other people who've got mental illness per se (like bipolar, schizophrenic, psychosis, disassociative personality disorder, or even PTSD). I got it a couple of times in th...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Worst misinterpretations of your motives?

Posted: 09 Nov 2021, 12:20 pm 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,483


Going back to the original question/thread (as the OP no less), I would like to raise another awful (and frankly absurd) misinterpretation of motives: More than once, as a younger man, when I told people "I need some time to think it over / think about it", they construed this as a rejecti...

 Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation   Topic: Autistic campaigners protest together in Cambridge, UK

Posted: 09 Nov 2021, 12:13 pm 

Replies: 66
Views: 2,588


Well, what I don't like about this sort of eugenics movement is that it's like "playing God". Or, more insidiously, "picking up where Darwin failed". :x Many people see autism as a paradox, that it goes against rules of "natural selection" yet it is more prevalent. I to...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Worst misinterpretations of your motives?

Posted: 08 Nov 2021, 10:30 am 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,483


I should also mention, in the goal of proving that Jesus's "share your wealth" teachings are not subject to rigid interpretation akin to communism, he could also have been alluding to one's stage/station of life where one is very old and very wealthy. Because you can't take it all with you...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Worst misinterpretations of your motives?

Posted: 08 Nov 2021, 10:18 am 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,483


People who call other people Communists usually don't know what Communism really is..... Well yeah. What Jesus was preaching was all voluntary - do this IF you want to get into the Kingdom of Heaven. Whereas communism is coercive, do this OR ELSE. 8O Everyone is forcibly equal and not allowed to ow...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Worst misinterpretations of your motives?

Posted: 07 Nov 2021, 1:57 pm 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,483


That I'm fake, inauthentic & a con is my worst. Happened often in high bureaucratics when I had to "pass as NT" to be effective to non-tech types. Well, yeah. I can TOTALLY see that happening!! Been there, done that. I read Dilbert regularly to try to dissipate the hair-pulling frustr...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Worst misinterpretations of your motives?

Posted: 07 Nov 2021, 1:56 pm 

Replies: 58
Views: 1,483


I think one of the most hurtful is being classified as uncaring, or lacking empathy. The first instance of this I can recall is when I was 10 and my great-grandmother died. I didn't cry at the funeral, and afterwards was accused by a family member of being heartless. Similar when my grandfather (wh...
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