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 Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends   Topic: So why was this an weird/awkward thing to do?

Posted: Yesterday, 9:27 pm 

Replies: 24
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Possibly, it wasn't "awkward". It was fine. NTs will often act in confusing or unpredictable ways to troll you or intimidate you. It's a faked act, due to the NTs' predatory instincts: the strong dominate and abuse the weak. My therapist and even my own family did that to me more times th...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: Yesterday, 9:18 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


My "creepy" radar beeps at desperate men. Socially awkward ones who have otherwise interesting lives (plenty of them in the Faculty of Physics) are fine. A lot of socially awkward men become desperate due to the fact it's harder for us to succeed in the dating/sex game (compared to social...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 12:29 pm 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


I used to get 'My friends are saying this about you.' 'My friends don't like the way you're treating me.' I asked 'what friends? Who are they?' But they could never say who these mysterious friends were... :lol: Sounds like somebody who lacks assertive communication...which sadly sounds like a larg...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 10:49 am 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


I used to get 'My friends are saying this about you.' 'My friends don't like the way you're treating me.' I asked 'what friends? Who are they?' But they could never say who these mysterious friends were... :lol: Sounds like somebody who lacks assertive communication...which sadly sounds like a larg...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 10:19 am 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


So...its "I know that they hang you for murder, but I cant always tell when I am committing murder.". Someone who knows you from Adam...your Momma, or even a longtime friend could be expected to make the distinction, and might well tell you "ya know...that social faux pas that you al...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 7:41 am 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


By projected threats, I mean a threat that the speaker isn't going to carry out but rather some nameless entity or group will. E.G. "If you keep behaving like that, the others will take you aside and beat the sh*t out of you" or "If you keep making those mistakes, nobody will tell yo...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 7:38 am 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


By projected threats, I mean a threat that the speaker isn't going to carry out but rather some nameless entity or group will. E.G. "If you keep behaving like that, the others will take you aside and beat the sh*t out of you" or "If you keep making those mistakes, nobody will tell yo...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 7:35 am 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


People feel that they can treat us this way, because they see us as being at the bottom of the social food chain. I think they get a kick out of scaring us into doing the right thing. How exactly is he being mistreated? You dont like that folks polititely warn him that "folks will kick your as...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: Do you get "projected threats" from others?

Posted: 03 Dec 2022, 9:27 pm 

Replies: 18
Views: 296


By projected threats, I mean a threat that the speaker isn't going to carry out but rather some nameless entity or group will. E.G. "If you keep behaving like that, the others will take you aside and beat the sh*t out of you" or "If you keep making those mistakes, nobody will tell you...

 Forum: General Autism Discussion   Topic: good at reading non-verbal, poor at cause & effect?

Posted: 03 Dec 2022, 9:16 pm 

Replies: 4
Views: 159


I'm wondering if any of my fellow "Aspies" have experienced this pattern: at various points in your life, you were able to subconsciously pick up on someone's facial expressions and body language and you intuited they were upset or angry, yet you attributed the wrong cause (to that effect,...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 11 Oct 2022, 8:16 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


One thing I will say is that I NEVER recall getting the label or comment of "creepy" behind my back. I've heard "weird", "strange", "not all there", "something up with him"... guess it helped that I had about an 8.5/10 rating from having handsomeness...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 11 Oct 2022, 8:10 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


SkinnyElephant wrote:

It's highly unlikely (impossible even) for a guy on the spectrum to be a bad boy.



Well, if one DID exist, we wouldn't find him on here. LOL!! :D

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 10 Oct 2022, 4:46 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


While it's been said here a couple of times recently that even neurotypicals can be socially awkward, that's true - BUT - typically it's awkwardness that seems more "natural", if that makes sense. Those folks will just realize their blunder and cover it up with nervous laughter and the lik...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 09 Oct 2022, 7:21 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


As for your double standard lament of how we're judged on boldness/aggression vs. neurotypical men...I think you hit the nail on the head. I have a theory, that NT laypeople don't consider or think in terms of autism spectrum - they think in terms of a "mental illness spectrum". So on see...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 09 Oct 2022, 4:36 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


Guys on the spectrum, big or small, tend to be the type to avoid street-fights. I didn't even know street fight was a thing in polite society? Now I have two questions: 1) How come the girl I had last summer left me because I told her I punched someone a year ago. When by punching I meant *lightly*...

 Forum: Love and Dating   Topic: Why many women dislike socially awkward men

Posted: 09 Oct 2022, 4:01 pm 

Replies: 136
Views: 2,963


Once I got out of the high school bubble, I was able to date a fair bit during my 20s (Likely due to my good looks, plus the fact I'm only on the spectrum to a mild degree). Before anyone reading my post gets jealous, however, I should mention: Most relationships I've had have been extremely short-...
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