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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 11:32 am
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| Whatever caused your depression initially, once it gained track, it's in your brain and won't be taken away by external events. But it has in the past. Describe what happened. The only way I've ever felt significantly better is when a woman has shown some sort of interest in me as a heterosexual ma... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 7:19 am
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magz wrote: Whatever caused your depression initially, once it gained track, it's in your brain and won't be taken away by external events.
But it has in the past.
I know my "depression" better than anyone else here. Trust me. I've lived it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 7:15 am
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| I think that once you find a partner you may be disappointed. It’s not the end all be all in life. It probably won’t magically cure your depression. You can’t rely on other people for happiness. That’s got to come from within. I understand why you think this generally, but in my case, my "depr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:52 am
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magz wrote: You're aware that you've grown elaborate fantasies that hinder your everyday living?
What do you mean fantasies?
Yeah, the way this predicament makes me feel does interfere with my day to day life. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:22 am
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| My recommendation is forget the idea that sex will be good. Also will be over quicker than you realize what happened. Focus on enjoying company instead. I'm not thinking about just sex when I talk about physical intimacy. Then what do you mean? In my culture, hugs are appropriate between friends. H... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:14 am
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r00tb33r wrote: My recommendation is forget the idea that sex will be good. Also will be over quicker than you realize what happened.
Focus on enjoying company instead.
I'm not thinking about just sex when I talk about physical intimacy. In fact I'm probably less focused on sex itself than you'd think. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:12 am
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magz wrote: Depression is not "about something", it's a chemical state of your brain.
Then what I'm dealing with must not be depression, because this is definitely "about something". |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:05 am
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| I’ve seen photos of TGI. He looks like a regular bloke with a beard. Nothing unusual about his looks. He’s maybe better looking than me, especially for women who value ruggedness. He lost over 100 pounds once. And he hasn’t gained most of that back. His situation is mostly borne out of luck, and se... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 6:02 am
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| Just having a partner whom I feel accepted by and can be intimate with would pretty much alleviate my depression. That's only what you imagine. Real life data does not confirm - it does not work that way. Well even having a woman to chat with online at that capacity has made a massive difference to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 5:47 am
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| Is there any situation in your life where you can enjoy your time with other people? Really just family. Not sure if you'd count trivia nights I help coordinate or not. Do you enjoy them? Yes, when I'm not overwhelmed with depression. In any case, no amount of platonic interactions are going to all... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 5:24 am
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| What happened to your friendships? Fizzled out over time. The friend I was closest to basically just stopped responding to me. I've been there myself. But ask yourself this, at that point, or just before, were you being a friend to them, or being a drain who overstayed the welcome? Brutally honest,... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 5:21 am
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magz wrote: Is there any situation in your life where you can enjoy your time with other people?
Really just family. Not sure if you'd count trivia nights I help coordinate or not.
In any case, no amount of platonic interactions are going to alleviate my suffering regarding the trouble I'm having romantically. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 5:14 am
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magz wrote: What happened to your friendships?
Fizzled out over time.
The friend I was closest to basically just stopped responding to me. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 5:08 am
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| I believe that's the heart of the problem. A lot of the expectations you appear to be putting on romance are actually what friends are for. Not having friends isn’t helping matters, but it's only been a couple of years that I haven't really had friends, and I was still very depressed about the lack... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 4:54 am
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| I'm sorry, I've been suicidal many times and I know how bad it is but... The brutal reality is, no girlfriend will show up to drag you out of depression. Even in my happy marriage, it does not work that way. I understand that's unlikely to happen, but that just makes me feel more depressed and hope... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What Am I Even Supposed To Do To? |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2023, 4:42 am
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| I'm sorry, I've been suicidal many times and I know how bad it is but... The brutal reality is, no girlfriend will show up to drag you out of depression. Even in my happy marriage, it does not work that way. I understand that's unlikely to happen, but that just makes me feel more depressed and hope... |
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