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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2022, 6:48 pm
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| Sounds familiar. I'm always 'the weirdo' in any group. I'm pretty tired of it tbh. I think I'll just avoid people, I generally do anyway as I work alone at home and rarely see anyone. I hear ya. I have a thread about how I'm happier without friends. I love my job and really I exist in the world of ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
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Posted: 02 Sep 2022, 8:04 am
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| What I can't understand is, those people who have loads of friends but somehow just doesn't like me in particular. Surely if they weren't very nice people, they wouldn't have loads of friends? So many people seem to only dislike ME, but love everyone else and everyone else loves them. It's disconce... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 29 Aug 2022, 9:28 am
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| What I can't understand is, those people who have loads of friends but somehow just doesn't like me in particular. Surely if they weren't very nice people, they wouldn't have loads of friends? So many people seem to only dislike ME, but love everyone else and everyone else loves them. It's disconce... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Does autism determine political views? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 11:39 am
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| First I'll note that anyone "fleeing blue states because of high crime" has a very out-of-date notion of which states have especially high violent crime rates. Most of the more dangerous cities are in red or purple states, not blue states. In deep red southern states (Mississippi, Missour... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Does autism determine political views? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 11:36 am
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| As others have pointed out, autism alone has no bearing on one's political beliefs. However, autism combined with one or more other factors can influence your political beliefs. For example, let's combine autism with race: A lot of whites on the spectrum (myself included) are conservative. Which is... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Does autism determine political views? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 11:15 am
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Replies: 75
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| First I'll note that anyone "fleeing blue states because of high crime" has a very out-of-date notion of which states have especially high violent crime rates. Most of the more dangerous cities are in red or purple states, not blue states. In deep red southern states (Mississippi, Missour... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Does autism determine political views? |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 11:03 am
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Replies: 75
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| As others have pointed out, autism alone has no bearing on one's political beliefs. However, autism combined with one or more other factors can influence your political beliefs. For example, let's combine autism with race: A lot of whites on the spectrum (myself included) are conservative. Which is ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have no friends |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 10:53 am
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Replies: 15
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| Would you be more comfortable if a friend could come visit you at your home, at a time you were happy with? I'd be ok with it, yeah. __________________________ I have not invited anyone over since 24. Now 39 I don't want them to know where I live. If we have an argument they might burn down my dump... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
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Posted: 28 Aug 2022, 10:50 am
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| And tired of thinking friendships are going well then suddenly being told, 'I hate you because you said XYZ' and me not having a clue what they are talking about. It so often seems I said 'something awful' a few months ago and now the 'friend' hates me for it. They rarely tell me what I'm supposed ... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Exclusion/humiliation at school |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2022, 12:09 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I wasn't liked at both prep and public school, but the verbal bullying was quite a bit worse at public school. Because he knew he couldn't be punished, as it was the last meal we'd both ever have at prep school, a boy put tobacco in my tea. I drunk the tea having no idea what he'd done. I was viole... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2022, 11:55 am
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| I have just recently been diagnosed and I'm 53 years old! I've had the same thing happen to me my whole life. I finally got fed up with people and started being a hermit. I did manage to find an amazing man and he's made the past 7 years better, but I miss having a female friend to hang out with. M... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I seem to have made a friend, then they're suddenly gone |
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Posted: 27 Aug 2022, 11:50 am
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| I suppose I'm just tired of trying and trying and trying and not getting anywhere. I thought I had 2 good friends locally but they have disappeared. And tired of thinking friendships are going well then suddenly being told, 'I hate you because you said XYZ' and me not having a clue what they are ta... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have no friends |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2022, 7:47 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I like to start my dinner some time in the 5:30-6:30 range. Would you consider an occasional restaurant meal during that time range, with a friend or with someone who seemed like a good potential friend? It's possible to have a friendship without visiting each other's homes. Many people have home s... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Exclusion/humiliation at school |
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Posted: 26 Aug 2022, 6:53 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I just remembered some more examples. When I was in high school, my English teacher switched the seating chart in the middle of the year. I heard the girl who got "stuck" sitting next to me say "Oh great, I have to sit next to the sketchy kid." Then the summer after high school, ... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Exclusion/humiliation at school |
| SkinnyElephant |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2022, 9:15 am
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Replies: 28
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| I only had one experience of physical bullying (non-brother related) that I can remember when I was a kid, and it didn’t happen at school. It was a group of neighbor boys. Kids often do things together that they wouldn’t do on their own - gang mentality. I only went to elementary school, and I home... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: Exclusion/humiliation at school |
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Posted: 23 Aug 2022, 8:05 am
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| :D Awrightie, then . . . I can think back and review my public school "career" as 13 years of Hell, yet without reliving the bad feelings. It was bad enough when fellow students would beat me up, but when the teachers would ridicule me in class for getting beat up ( "You must have a... |
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