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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you autistic and gifted? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2022, 8:58 am
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Replies: 105
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The same neurological variant that produces faster, more complex, or more sensitive neurology, may also present with the neurology that produces a higher IQ.
There is a joke in Mensa that if you do not have Aspergers it is because someone else took the test for you. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stuck among normies |
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Posted: 30 Nov 2022, 7:55 am
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Replies: 10
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| When I was single I used to travel. Once I tried fishing by going into a bait shop on a lake in California and telling the guy I would like to go fishing, but I didn't know the first thing about it. He was very helpful and not only because I purchased the equipment and rented a boat. One can go hors... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Parenting |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2022, 7:42 am
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Replies: 3
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| don’t ever compare me to you again. We are nothing alike you got that? In a way it is sort of a compliment. Such a statement conveys a wealth of information. One can find hurt, selfishness, and a presumption of dictatorial authority. The phrase "How sharper than a serpent's tooth, a thankless ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Newbie (help with 12yo grandson) |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2022, 7:25 am
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Replies: 10
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| Autism is a category that was initially used for children who had a brain malformation or had suffered brain injury. These children seldom survived into adulthood. A few years ago Aspergers was reclassified as a type of autism. In a way autism is a sort of miscellaneous category now which does not a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Functioning Breakdown |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2022, 7:11 am
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Replies: 2
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| Having a neurology that is faster, more complex, or more sensitive can present a person with so much information about his environment that processing it all can take time. In a social setting where everyone else is running on "automatic pilot", it can make one stand out in a noticeable wa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ADHD/ASD fatigue |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2022, 7:20 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 876
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| Many modern work environments set a pace that results in a sort of debilitation after work. Depleted energy levels have to be restored on your own hours. This can even be done willingly as one may find a sort of exhilaration at work that contributes to stealing vitality from your off hours. ADHD med... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Would you tend to agree that cliques are a lifelong dynamic? |
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Posted: 14 Nov 2022, 7:12 am
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| There is a familial / tribal element to cliques. One might make a case that for people who have broken families (such as in poverty areas) the need for a group is even higher which may account for street gangs. Up until 100 years ago families were very large, stable, and located on one place. Since ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Is it pointless to have sex just to say ''you've done it'' ? |
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Posted: 13 Nov 2022, 9:33 am
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Replies: 117
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| Casual fornication is promoted in almost all media as routine, expected, and common. Often what is not discussed is the benefits of abstinence. If a person seeks a mate for a life long marriage and to build a family, bringing ignorance and inexperience to the table might seem a deficit. However, the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Can’t say or do the right thing |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2022, 6:06 am
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Replies: 7
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers & Doing Things |
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Posted: 04 Nov 2022, 6:01 am
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Replies: 3
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One thing about things that are difficult or mistakes that are made is that if they are repetitive, there is the opportunity to learn to improve.
I saw an interview with a famous potter once and he said, "If you do anything 20-30,000 times, you are bound to get good at it." |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: ASD and drama group |
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Posted: 30 Oct 2022, 6:02 am
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Replies: 2
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Acting is when someone writes a script, the director decides how it should be portrayed, and the actor follows his instruction.
Improv is when the actor does it all.
Whether NT or not, the talent to do this varies. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Fear my relationship with teenage son is ruined |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2022, 11:34 am
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Replies: 7
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| Having a child refuse to talk with you is heart breaking. Having one who does talk to you and tell you everything he hates about you is even more heartbreaking. Mark Twain is supposed to have said that when he was 17 he couldn't believe how stupid his father was and when he was 21 he couldn't believ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fawning and people-pleasing |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2022, 6:10 am
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Replies: 2
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| Trauma can produce anxieties as well as neurology. People pleasing can be an anxiety avoidance tactic. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The hype vs the reality. Same for any of you? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2022, 6:02 am
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Replies: 10
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| Simplistic declarative statements are seldom "true". They are often used to express or create emotional effects. It can be especially confusing if one has the expectation that language is supposed to express, if not truth, than at least accuracy. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Real name of "sudden inability to cope"? |
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Posted: 26 Oct 2022, 5:57 am
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Replies: 7
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| I had two daughters with selective mutism. It was my observation that there was an almost paralytic reaction to anxiety causing situations. Rather than a sensory cause, I thought it was an anxiety caused by uncertainty as to what outcome would be achieved for any given response. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Family members diagnosed as adults |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2022, 6:22 am
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Replies: 2
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| The opinion of a "professional" (ie diagnosis) is not always helpful. Labels seldom help a situation. It might be more comfortable for your son to think in terms of particular characteristics. For example, if he has anxieties, addressing those concerns might be more helpful. He might even ... |
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