Not being able to make friends is frightening me

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05 Oct 2021, 9:30 am

Joe90,
Without over thinking and without all the psycho-babble . . . we like you.
Can we be your friends?
We are all weird, but - we are all human too.


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05 Oct 2021, 12:21 pm

Fenn wrote:
Joe90,
Without over thinking and without all the psycho-babble . . . we like you.
Can we be your friends?
We are all weird, but - we are all human too.


You are my friends here! :)


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05 Oct 2021, 8:23 pm

how to fix "failure to thrive"?



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05 Oct 2021, 10:12 pm

Jakki wrote:
Elon Musks circumstances had to be just right .. Not having predator pursuing him as a version
of fun in their lifes . Having to fight against being victimized might inhibit someones ability to thrive like Elon . Especially if the predators are having friends in the low level legal system.
Had learned about so many ways to harass a person legal and illegally that i never cared to have ever know about . If you do scientific research and you have people in the area that keep stealing equipment and supplies and they have friends in your local law enforcement and their own relatives supporting their actions . Inspite of physical safeguards you have undertaken .
(This does not include your own personal aspie issues,of day to day stuff )
You might have a failure to thrive. Inspite of 20 yrs of efforts . Elon was a lucky man in lucky circumstances . Probably with a very rich family aswell . Sorry to be a debbie downer. But some parts of life can be very real.


Agree with your points Jakki. Family wealth, access to resources and support networks make a world of difference in overcoming the odds. Elon Musk was actually born in South Africa and by curious coincidence both his father and my maternal uncle both owned emerald mines in that country (my uncle was an expat). The irony as that my uncle struggled to make a living from that mine and died broke. Elon's father also struggled to make money but made enough to put him through school. But after that he had to make his own money so he is self-made and being a migrant from South Africa was an additional barrier he had to overcome.

All of this doesn't discount the various barriers everyone has to face to get by, But making friends is possible (like succeeding in your career) but both takes effort.



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06 Oct 2021, 10:53 am

@cyberdad.. allow me to extrapolate here : being the son of a Owner of a possibly successful
Emerald mine Owner . Does not give Elon any advantage , Even though his situation allowed him to be able to emigrate from So Africa to the USA , And whatever connections his father may have had
to get him in a position to do this . And suppose previous gem mine owner , Might not have generated contacts worldwide .? Well am glad you have a unassuming point of veiw about Dear Elons , self made man ideas . But based on what you have written , You inadvertantly diminished ,what little
belief , i had in Elons , self made man concept .
But thank you very much for agreeing with my concepts . but your post does seem to me to be that of a extrapolation made by a person who might have a basis of a veiw point of a lifelong NT persons understandings . This is merely my interpetations of what you wrote. no offense intended.


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06 Oct 2021, 11:37 am

Joe90 wrote:
Fenn wrote:
Joe90,
Without over thinking and without all the psycho-babble . . . we like you.
Can we be your friends?
We are all weird, but - we are all human too.


You are my friends here! :)


no...you don't talk to people



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06 Oct 2021, 11:38 am

unless its on the board in public



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06 Oct 2021, 1:27 pm

^ eba - um - kidding right?


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06 Oct 2021, 2:43 pm

Earthbound_Alien wrote:
Joe90 wrote:
Fenn wrote:
Joe90,
Without over thinking and without all the psycho-babble . . . we like you.
Can we be your friends?
We are all weird, but - we are all human too.


You are my friends here! :)


no...you don't talk to people


Well I mean offline friends more, fitting in at work, stuff like that.

You don't know who else I talk to on PM and how often.


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06 Oct 2021, 7:32 pm

auntblabby wrote:
how to fix "failure to thrive"?


I had that as a baby...but it was due to gluten



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07 Oct 2021, 3:04 am

Earthbound_Alien wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
how to fix "failure to thrive"?


I had that as a baby...but it was due to gluten

i should have phrased that question, "how to fix young adults' failure to thrive."



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07 Oct 2021, 5:01 am

auntblabby wrote:
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how to fix "failure to thrive"?


I had that as a baby...but it was due to gluten

i should have phrased that question, "how to fix young adults' failure to thrive."


hey no leaving out the old ones... :P



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07 Oct 2021, 5:10 am

Earthbound_Alien wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
Earthbound_Alien wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
how to fix "failure to thrive"?


I had that as a baby...but it was due to gluten

i should have phrased that question, "how to fix young adults' failure to thrive."


hey no leaving out the old ones... :P

i'm old too, i was referring to how could i have avoided my own failure to thrive when i was young.



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07 Oct 2021, 11:00 am

am suspicious that society , sets some people up for failure ...i think some people wear out themselves , believing in a cause or feeling a sense of duty. And this country uses them up .
Then disregards them after that. But wishes too make the appearances of caring for them.
Even employing thousands to make a good show of it . And even some of those folks , do make efforts to give aid . Even though the system is messed up . But its quality of life issues as a person
goes on in life. That is the issue, i feel .


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11 Oct 2021, 1:42 pm

I just feel angry because one of my cousins should have Asperger's but she doesn't because she's always been average at making friends.

Why me? Why just me? I should not be the only one with it, somebody else in my family should have it too. :x

I'm hoping that I might not qualify for autism any more under the new DSV5 or whatever it's called. It's no good hoping my cousin is on the spectrum when she's has less traits than I do. So the next best hope I've got is that I'm not on the f*****g spectrum either.


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11 Oct 2021, 2:45 pm

i think at a certain age it( the diagnosis) just does not have the same outcome on a persons overall life as they become older. Whatever the outcome of your tests joe90, i hope you can still move forward in your life.


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