Age Shaming

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Does anyone on here get age shamed? the other day when I had my fourth Covid jab the nurse wanted my birth date and then said the usual "You don't look it" drives me mad which is why I can never tell anyone my age.
I"m careful when I talk to anyone to never say "I remember that" if they say something that happened years ago.I just say " that was before my time" instead.

It's a compliment,so why do you consider it shaming?

If she didn't mean it to be rude I don't think you should take it too personally.

But having said that I kind of understand. It's no fun being thought of as a kid when you're over 30 like I am. Sometimes it makes me feel self-conscious.

I've actually once overheard a nurse in a hospital once tell another nurse I looked like "a 30 year old kid". That really bothered me for years and still does.

If people would only add, "Not that that's old, of course," it might seem like less of an insult.

I just feel it's an insult, I can't even get a seniors card as it would be embarrassing if I used it.

The situation you describe isn't age shaming. Age shaming is calling someone a "boomer", for instance. You were being paid a compliment. If you can't accept it in the spirt its offered, the best thing is to say nothing. Otherwise, you might end up being the rude one in the conversation. If you don't want to give your age, and are not in a situation where you are legally obligated to, you don't have to. But making an issue of it will make you look and sound churlish.

To anyone that doesn't understand, it's not a compliment because telling someone they look good for their age or don't look it implies aging is bad. It also implies you are supposed to have wrinkles and saggy skin at that age. Not sure how old OP is but of she is 60, do people think 60 year olds are covered in liver spots and crepey skin like an 80 year old?

Young people make dumb ass comments about 30 or 40 year olds saying they look 20 or something when in fact they do look their age. If it's teenagers saying them, they're ignorant and have no idea about adults and age. I was once told I looked 16 when I was 32 and he was 24. Like what did he think a 30 year old looked like?

"You do not look that old" is a compliment to some, and an insult to others.  It all depends on the person on the receiving end.  Sensitive or self-conscious people may not like hearing any reference to their age or appearance.

Personally, I like hearing such flattery directed at me.  Sure, compliments about my age and appearance are likely insincere (or outright lies), but so what?  They make me feel good anyway.

I think it shows a lack of theory of mind from whoever says it.
They know your age because you've told them or shown ID.

A man can't really say "You look beautiful" if that's what he thinks.
It would also be a little cringey for a woman to say it.
Instead, they assume it's a welcome compliment to say you look young.
It doesn't occur to them that we don't need their commentary either way.

Chances are they're also just making small-talk.
Maybe they say it to lots of people at the jab clinic because people are stressed.

When you're 30 and they say you dont look that old, that is when s**t hits the fan.

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