Anyone else on the spectrum not physically age?

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24 Jan 2016, 8:14 am

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Nope — I currently have the opposite problem. I always have people question my age, such as ticket inspectors. I'm only 16 but have received comments that I look 29+ years old.
There ya go!! I know what this person means. Tried to get a girl to go out with me one time. Kept asking, she kept saying no. So, I finally asked why (what the hell, I wanted to know what I did wrong or something) She said she wasn't going out with a 30 year old man. I had just turned 19. So, yep, I get that. Designated beer buyer at the age of 15.


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24 Jan 2016, 10:43 am

My semi-Aspie like Fiancee is almost 40 but gets carded all the time. I remember we were at a gas station getting a lottery ticket and the clerk asks for ID. The cashier yells out in front of everyone "OH MY GOD YOU ARE ONLY TWO YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME!! What's your secret? That's incredible!" At the casino, the security guard almost had his eyes pop out of his head and said "keep on smiling Ma'am!" Her sister is even 7 years younger and its hard to tell who is the oldest.

Doesn't seem to apply to her probable Aspie father and almost guaranteed Aspie grandfather. Both look their ages as does her mother. As for me, not so much now mostly because I go out of my way to look as old as I can because nobody wants to hire anyone under 35 for a middle income job these days.



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24 Jan 2016, 10:56 am

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As for me, not so much now mostly because I go out of my way to look as old as I can because nobody wants to hire anyone under 35 for a middle income job these days.
Huh...what field? My experience is that they do not want to hire anybody older than 35 because the pay and (They say) 'too old and out of touch with the market place' or, here's my favorite, 'too old school.' Won't say it to your face. But it's like one of those movie/sitcom moments when they talk. You feel like getting in their face and saying, 'you do realize I am here and can hear you.'

My field is in art and entertainment, so that may put it in perspective......


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24 Jan 2016, 11:06 am

I get surprised looks when people find out I'm 62.

This is especially true when I'm 10 pound lighter.
I'm an avid spinner/cyclist.
Monday had the day off(MLK) and was at the gym for a 5 A. M. spin class.


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24 Jan 2016, 12:14 pm

For zkydz...tried to quote you but stupid captcha keeps eating my posts..."Too old school?" I am very old school--I am 37 and I have had people my age who know me, consider me to have been born about 40 yrs too late. I tend to be too formal (can't figure out social nuances so if in doubt I err on the side of too formal) but I must sound very young. ???? Sometimes I will answer the phone and someone will ask to speak with my mother. Reading through this thread, it seems like aspies throw the age assumptions out the window--we are a strange mix of old souls, old thoughts, innocent faces and behaviors...I am finding this to be a very interesting thread.


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25 Jan 2016, 6:51 pm

I never thought I looked younger than my actual age, but I'll be twenty in three days and was told today I look sixteen. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. On the plus side, if people think I'm younger than I really am, they might be more accepting of me not knowing how to do things I should be able to do by now; however, it could turn off some girls who want a man that looks more mature.



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25 Jan 2016, 6:55 pm

In general, I find that the aging process is becoming a slower process.

In the 1950's, people in their 40's, or even their 30's, looked much older than people in their 30's/40's do today.

I remember my father at 55. I'm 55 now. I look much younger than he did when he was 55. I act a lot less mature, too.

I believe, over the past generation, that "adolescence" has extended to approximately age 25. The end of adolescence tended to seem like somewhere between ages 18 and 21 during the previous generation.

My grandmother, when she was in her 50's, seemed like a so-called real grandmother. Not many people in their 50's, these days, seem like so-called real grandmothers/grandfathers.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:11 pm

I look about my age...early to mid 20s...but I've always had really good skin. No wrinkles at all.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:15 pm

NOBODY has wrinkles when they're in their early-to-mid 20's! At least none that are noticeable.

I don't have too many now. People have to look closely in order to see them. I'm 55.

The reason why I look my age is primarily because of my gray hair. And my furrowed forehead.



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25 Jan 2016, 8:37 pm

I look my age and am happy with this. I think at this point in my life it would be terrible to look younger than my age -when I'm 20, I want to look 20, not 15 or something.

Looking younger for your age is an advantage I'd say only when you're about 30 and the youngest you could pass for is 20 or, in the U.S., due to the drinking age being 21 there, 22.

It's not necessarily completely a bad thing to look under 18 when you're over, but still seems a lot of the posts here come across awkward and annoying situations I'd much rather avoid.

Hopefully I continue to maintain this growing into my age thing and don't fall behind/look younger than 20 once I do reach that age.



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25 Jan 2016, 9:45 pm

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In general, I find that the aging process is becoming a slower process.

In the 1950's, people in their 40's, or even their 30's, looked much older than people in their 30's/40's do today.

I remember my father at 55. I'm 55 now. I look much younger than he did when he was 55. I act a lot less mature, too.

I believe, over the past generation, that "adolescence" has extended to approximately age 25. The end of adolescence tended to seem like somewhere between ages 18 and 21 during the previous generation.

My grandmother, when she was in her 50's, seemed like a so-called real grandmother. Not many people in their 50's, these days, seem like so-called real grandmothers/grandfathers.


Reading through a "coffee table book" called "My brother's face" of civil war era photos, one of the things that struck me was how old the 20-somethings looked. The hardness of the expressions was what I would expect someone in their 40's or 50's to have nowadays.

But the difference in the responsibilities one shouldered in that era and the responsibilities at the same age given to people now...no wonder. In the Laura Ingalls Wilder books, Laura referred to her father doing a full day's work in the field with the men at the age of 9 yrs old (Laura was born in 1867, so that would have been approx. the 1830's or '40's? Don't remember what year he was born). Now, our 9 yr olds are in 4th grade or so, and riding bikes and playing video games in their free time. Many have chores, but I don't know any parents, even among the plain Mennonites that I grew up with, who expect their 9 yr olds to do a man's work.

Our childhoods extend much longer than they did back then. No wonder people looked older, at younger ages, years ago.


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25 Jan 2016, 9:55 pm

Indeed..in the 19th century, kids were expected to work starting, sometimes, around age 6. Certainly by age 9-10.

It was unusual for kids to graduate from grammar school (8th grade) then.

It is said that Lincoln had about 1 1/2 years of actual education.



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25 Jan 2016, 10:08 pm

I'm almost 30, and I've been this age since 15. I haven't aged a day since, and it's not an exaggeration. If you look at my pictures in high school and now, I look exactly the same.

My sister is the same, she's almost 40 and she gets hit on all the time from men half her age who promptly get red faced afterwards. She really does look young though.


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25 Jan 2016, 10:17 pm

Until I entered my early-40's people tended to treat me like a teenager. I was able to return to complete high school and college when I was already 34, and the last time someone tried to guess my age this person said, "Well, you couldn't be older than I am" (he was in his early 30's, I was already 46).



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26 Jan 2016, 12:20 am

I once got asked by a taxi driver who was hired by ODSP to drive me to a doctor's appointment if my young age was related to my disability. I was kinda offended when that question came out of the blue. This was before I was diagnosed with Asperger's, but I guess now that I think about it, it is related. *shrug*



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26 Jan 2016, 2:11 am

Not sure if I look quite that young, but most people seem surprised when they find out I'm 24.