Trying to get a little better every day

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2wheels4ever
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26 Apr 2017, 11:40 pm

In regards to improving social skills and dating prospects, in my own personal experience it does tend to give off a higher dividend of confidence the more I venture a bit more out of my comfort level. I am not fully "there" yet but since the time a couple of years ago when I felt "sick and tired of being sick and tired" and the opportunity (it DOES knock: IF you listen for it) to join a gym presented itself, I went from being suicidal and self-injurious over a traffic ticket (which I went to court prepared to challenge, and the accusing MOTORCYCLE COP never showed up) to a point where I began to notice people are genuinely interested in what I have to offer and just enjoying my company in a general sense. This past week I had the anecdotal proof in my face when I was visiting family and usually I would get a lot of passive-aggressive attitude and a lecture after a couple of days due to some of my habits and routines, but this time I got a "whatever you're doing, keep it up". In the meantime however, I've managed to shift my sense of validation and self-worth to things that please me rather than going codependent on someone I barely know, and who has NOT YET fully EARNED the privilege to know things about ME.

What I'm trying to relay to the folks who feel "nothing changes" - you are completely right; nothing changes if NOTHING CHANGES. YOU are "the prize" but you might be a sculpture that is still hidden in the block of stone, it's up to you to give the sculptor the slightest inclination of the masterpiece that lies within


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27 Apr 2017, 2:32 am

Nice.


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27 Apr 2017, 6:31 am

2wheels4ever wrote:
the more I venture a bit more out of my comfort level

That's the way bro. Make discomfort your comfort zone, 1% better every day, but remember not to beat yourself up
2wheels4ever wrote:
What I'm trying to relay to the folks who feel "nothing changes" - you are completely right; nothing changes if NOTHING CHANGES. YOU are "the prize" but you might be a sculpture that is still hidden in the block of stone, it's up to you to give the sculptor the slightest inclination of the masterpiece that lies within

I know I've heard that analogy before.. Keep it up 8)



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27 Apr 2017, 6:53 am

As the Japanese say, Kaizen. Or Change for the better, one step at a time. Carry on, my friend. :)



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27 Apr 2017, 9:47 am

In my life when I use this strategy people are often impatient towards me and think I am lazy or making excuses because I can not change as fast they can. Today's "Do it yesterday" multitasking culture looks down on being deliberate.


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