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18 Jun 2014, 5:33 pm

SabbraCadabra wrote:
Most people say "I'm ____ and I'm looking for ____", it's pretty easy to skim past anything you're not interested in.


Many posters don't mention their own gender. They may say that they're looking for a man, but you still have to go and check their WP profile to see whether they themselves are male or female (as usually their WP ID is not gender-specific). Those who mention both their own gender and what gender they are looking for often "hide" this information somewhere in a long text. It's not usually at the top. Many straight people forget that not everyone is straight and don't mention sexual orientation at all. It's actually not easy. In the old thread, you pretty much have to read and investigate 90 straight ads to find 10 that are LGBT (and apart from including L, B and T in addition to the G you may be looking for even most of those are searching for someone local in their part of the US rather than in Europe).



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18 Jun 2014, 10:20 pm

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...They may say that they're looking for a man, but you still have to go and check their WP profile to see whether they themselves are male or female...


The gender in the profile may not be accurate. For some, they put their biological gender, while others are transgender/variant and use their assumed gender identity. That is one good reason for having one straight list and a separate catch-all. If someone is looking in the catch all, they know to expect anything.



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22 Jun 2014, 8:21 pm

I suppose Texas probably would need its own thread



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P.S. - Awesome Username. Seeing them live on July 4th.


I saw them in...2007 I think it was. Megadeth and Machine Head opened for them (missed out on the show where Down and MD were the openers).


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07 Jul 2014, 7:55 pm

im on this list!



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17 Jul 2014, 11:00 am

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23 Jul 2014, 11:27 am

I NEED someone to argue with. :? I mean it. I'm sick of fake happy smiley eager-to-please whatever. I WANT somebody INTERESTING. I want someone who's vain and up themselves, and who doesn't go silent when I argue with them. Silence is BORING.

I need someone to TELL ME when they're angry at me, and why. I want to be able to tell someone *exactly* what I think of them, without them backing out. I want someone strong enough to take sh!t from me. I want a man who's strong enough to acknowledge when he's wrong, and to acknowledge when I'm wrong. And I don't want a cheap b*stard. Is there ANYONE out there like that at ALL?


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23 Jul 2014, 2:44 pm

smudge wrote:
I NEED someone to argue with. :? I mean it. I'm sick of fake happy smiley eager-to-please whatever. I WANT somebody INTERESTING. I want someone who's vain and up themselves, and who doesn't go silent when I argue with them. Silence is BORING.

I need someone to TELL ME when they're angry at me, and why. I want to be able to tell someone *exactly* what I think of them, without them backing out. I want someone strong enough to take sh!t from me. I want a man who's strong enough to acknowledge when he's wrong, and to acknowledge when I'm wrong. And I don't want a cheap b*stard. Is there ANYONE out there like that at ALL?


So you want a slightly histrionic mildly narcissistic proto-human with a sensitive side?

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Meet stig :?:


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27 Jul 2014, 10:21 am

NOTE TO SELF: remember to log in more frequently

NOTE TO SITE OWNERS: thanks for sending a notification for a reply to a topic I was subscribed to, that made me remind how silly I am to forget to check the forum more often. Flooded with different activities and such, but that's a poor excuse.



Anyways, I made a post twice in the eligible singles list, but never too much efford into it. On another forum (more locally and more orientated to HS and HP, but some Aspies post there too) I had several topics about love and romance in which I put a lot of efford writing the posts.
But the difference: there each forum member could have 1 topic about themselves describing who they are and what type of person they look for. The title would be "username, age, sex, location, looking for M/F" or "wanted: M/F aged 20-30 near Paris, France" ... This sort of clear topic titles and the fact every member can have 1 thread for himself/herself, makes it a lot more effective than having several singles posting in 1 thread which soon becomes too flooded to invest time in checking all profiles.

I think regionalising is no solution. The drastic solution is the only one that can work:
- either allow every member 1 thread for himself/herself (a separate subforum "singles looking for love" could be created for this, seperated from the more generic love-related discussions). This way people immediately see what the person is looking for, and if location, age and gender are suiting then they can open the thread and see if they like the person's description (if so, they can PM)

- or create an extra button just like there is "profile", "PM", "website", "email", "blog" ... showing below every post, and redirecting to his profile and description of what he searches for (like a dating site profile page). That way each member can, if they like another member's way of posting, click his/her dating page and see if they wish to send a PM or not.



Having any system without giving each single member an own "dating page" is not going to work due to the flood of posts if you try to collect different singles in 1 topic. It is Always going to be flooded with posts; disencouraging others to even bother to read all and see if there's a potential match in there. You need to either supply a button linking to a dating profile so that people who like a posting member can press the button redirecting to their dating description, or you need to have a topic per person where the title of the topic immediately makes clear whether it's worth checking or not (for example if a girl would post as title "female 28yrs from Belgium looking for boyfriend" I'd open the topic and see what she has to say. Or if I'd notice a member Always publishing nice posts, I'd click the button and see her dating profile to see if there'd be a potential match.

Member-specific, is the only thing that is going to work. The moment you put several singles into one topic, it's going to be flooded eventually and that will disencourage people to even go through the topic.


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09 Aug 2014, 1:12 am

I'm single though I have been in several long-term relationships. I'm also asexual, which makes it ever harder to find a match, but I know I will someday. :D


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09 Aug 2014, 4:16 pm

I'm single since 2 weeks xD s**t.



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17 Aug 2014, 3:46 pm

I've been single for a few years, but that's assuming that anything I had can be rounded up to be considered a relationship. So I may have been single for 26 years. I'm pretty much invisible to women in any aspect other than as a friend.


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17 Aug 2014, 9:37 pm

SabbraCadabra wrote:
I'm not sure why there needs to be separate threads for different sexual orientations. Does that mean people who are bisexual (or similar) will have to post in more than one thread?

I was wondering that too, but also that if, say, a bisexual person posts in both threads, then their post in the "straight" thread could be somewhat misleading, as they are indicating that they are straight by posting in there (if they don't specify).



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18 Aug 2014, 6:53 am

Let me show you people how this is done.
Im 24, from sydney australia. I tame magpies professionally and I have won 3 gold ribbons at the Sydney magpie and kangaroo convention...NOW... Apart from my dashing smile, sexy tattoos and athletic body you can fry an egg on I am simply known in my town as a sex panther. I can make furniture orgasm simply by sitting on it and those orgasms become multiple if i sneeze or cough. I am looking for a female to communicate with who enjoys 'sledge hammer humour' and can dish out as much as i can. I have never lost an argument and I have never lost a game of connect 4.
If you or anyone you know matches this criteria, please dont hesitate in contacting me! My signature says it all!


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18 Aug 2014, 5:24 pm

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Let me show you people how this is done.
Im 24, from sydney australia. I tame magpies professionally and I have won 3 gold ribbons at the Sydney magpie and kangaroo convention...NOW... Apart from my dashing smile, sexy tattoos and athletic body you can fry an egg on I am simply known in my town as a sex panther. I can make furniture orgasm simply by sitting on it and those orgasms become multiple if i sneeze or cough. I am looking for a female to communicate with who enjoys 'sledge hammer humour' and can dish out as much as i can. I have never lost an argument and I have never lost a game of connect 4.
If you or anyone you know matches this criteria, please dont hesitate in contacting me! My signature says it all!


LOL!



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21 Aug 2014, 4:07 pm

fabzilla wrote:
Let me show you people how this is done.
Im 24, from sydney australia. I tame magpies professionally and I have won 3 gold ribbons at the Sydney magpie and kangaroo convention...NOW... Apart from my dashing smile, sexy tattoos and athletic body you can fry an egg on I am simply known in my town as a sex panther. I can make furniture orgasm simply by sitting on it and those orgasms become multiple if i sneeze or cough. I am looking for a female to communicate with who enjoys 'sledge hammer humour' and can dish out as much as i can. I have never lost an argument and I have never lost a game of connect 4.
If you or anyone you know matches this criteria, please dont hesitate in contacting me! My signature says it all!


If this forum were a competition, you would have just won with that post. lol. I hope you find what you're looking for, times 10!