Dating Someone YouDont Like Just For Relationship Experience

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There is some truth to this but I'm just saying it takes a lot more effort to wriggle out of an established de-facto relationship than a couple of dates or a hookup.

Billy Beta has a trump card that Bertha doesn't.

Money and/or fame.

Not really. All a woman needs to do is call the whaaaambulance, say "I'm not happy!", and just leave. And if she's married, she'll get the house, the car, the dog, the custody of the kids, her husband's antique stamp collection, 50% of his bank account assets, the alimony until she remarries, and the child support (which is the only legit part).

Perhaps so, if all that the woman is looking for is sex. But that's not most women, attractive or otherwise.

Most women are looking for a longterm relationship. And there are plenty of heterosexual women, even relatively attractive ones, who are not able to find a compatible man who wants a longterm relationship with them.

Last edited by Mona Pereth on 15 Jan 2022, 4:24 pm, edited 2 times in total.

There is certainly no guarantee that the woman gets all these things.

Laws vary from one jurisdiction to another. Divorce is almost always a major financial setback for both ex-spouses.

The lines here are quite fuzzy before the age of 30 for most young women. My understanding is the commitment to a long term relationship is somewhat flexible before 30. I've known plenty of young women in their 20s who enjoy the narcissistic pleasure of having different men hit on them.

Now with the social media age I imagine the narcissistic traits and unrealistic expectations are worse. Single women are increasingly happier to date/hookup until they meet their "prince". However unrealistic their expectations.

That is always something that hangs over every relationship whether defacto or marriage. Life is sometimes about taking risks.

It’s not worth dating someone you aren’t attracted to and don’t like. It’s better to wait because dating someone just for the experience if you know you’ll break up due to not being attracted to them in any way. That’s how people get their feelings hurt.

It might be worth it for men under 24. (Women never have to settle and can find an attractive boyfriend easily, both for social and evolutionary reasons, so this doesn't apply to them.) After all, NOTHING can truly replace YOUNG love. So a man is better off having at least some girlfriend at a young age, even a totally unattractive one, unless she's too boring and incompatible to even be a good girlfriend. Basically, don't do more than 55% of the work to set up your dates.

A first relationship at age 20 and a first relationship at age 30 are nowhere near similar to each other. The former is fun and exciting; the latter is banal and mundane. And not having a relationship at a young age will be HUGE hindrance a decade later, because you'll never have had that fun, young love experience most people fondly remember. So it's best to get it accomplished at a young age at any cost, even if that means foregoing one's girlfriend's attractiveness.

Long gone the days of slavery of women in couples. They have rights now, and they wont risk getting killed if they try to leave. That's not exactly a bad thing. What kinda person would really want to keep a woman who doesnt care about them, like them, or wants anything to do with them. I mean I get it, dating women is super difficult, I know from experience, and so is dating guys, and one might never convince them of their worth. But I dont see taking them as prisoners as a resolve for this issue. Otherwise we'd all be like the Pakistanese or Arabs.

That explains why beauty is a curse. What if Billy was never attracted to Bertha to begin with, and his feelings about her looks wouldnt have to change. Then Bertha wouldn't have to get defensive and princessy on his butt. But then she would find out she isnt and will never be beautiful to him, and that will reinforce the way she feels about her body. How can Billy sleep with Bertha his whole life without having ever been attracted to her. Is she just his gummy doll he turns the light off on? That might get old for even Billy.

Just because Bertha is Shapely doesnt make her unattractive. Big Bertha might be a real princess.

Billy Beta might be a princess himself. xD

"Big Bertha, German (censored) Bertha, a type of 420-mm (16.5-inch) howitzer that was first used by the German army to bombard Belgian and French forts during World War I. ... At the time of their construction, the Big Berthas were the largest, most-powerful mobile artillery pieces in use by any army." - sounds like Beyonce.

"Beta Ray Bill is a fictional superhero appearing in American comic books published by Marvel Comics. " - "I designed Bill deliberately as a monster, because I knew that people would look at it and go, "Oh my God, it's this evil guy." I deliberately wrote them so you weren't sure in the beginning if he was a good guy or a bad guy ... I chose the name for its alliterative qualities." O:

That's not true as there are women who struggle to find a relationships, I suspect some of them would disagree that they can replace a man as easily as a pair of panties.

sometimes i get annoyed when people say that women need dating or relationship skills as well

They do. Otherwise they get raped repeatedly or ignored.

Ain't nobody silent in relationships just showing their panties. If that happens it's totally wrong and traumatizing.

You don't get to keep relationships healthy or at all without giving in everything you got and more.

Plus to conquer + reconquer a woman and a guy it's not working with just panties.

Women don't magically have the answers or read minds, they learn like anybody else and deal with unexpected and crisis situations.

I wouldn't do that, BUT, someone else might - entirely up to the individual and their values, morals etc. If the person making the decision to do it is Okay with it and whatever fallout may come of it - the end justifies the means for them - then they could do it and be A-Okay with it.

I did read the post a few down that said maybe a non-exclusive fwb thing -> that, to me, would be much more acceptable IF someone was going to connect with someone else just for the sake of hooking up. Then they're at least not leading them on pretending there's a relationship beginning that has a chance of becoming a long term thing.

But everyone's different in their own personal moral code, as well as romantic opportunities etc, so it's entirely up to the individual and Not Me or what I would do. I can say with ease I wouldn't do that thing Because I know that I don't have great difficulty getting laid - I've had hundreds of partners. So I'd never ever Ever date someone I wasn't into to get laid. I doubt I'd want to hookup with them either. BUT, if I were different and in the situation described by the OP I might have a different opinion entirely. So, that's what I would/wouldn't do, but the OP needs to do whatever is right for them and their situation and life.