Dating a “shift manager”. Appropriate or no?

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CubsBullsBears
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31 Aug 2022, 7:58 pm

As I said in another post, I’m a delivery driver at a pizza place. This isn’t really something I’ve heard an opinion on one way or the other so I’d like some input.


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31 Aug 2022, 8:01 pm

Is she your direct supervisor?



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31 Aug 2022, 8:04 pm

Not exactly. As said in the title, she’s considered a shift manager.


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31 Aug 2022, 8:07 pm

Some people might say it's inappropriate. But these kinds of romances happen all the time.

There could be potential for either one of you to exploit each other.

What's the status of the relationship between you two now?



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31 Aug 2022, 8:16 pm

She’s a chill person to talk to. We’re friends on Facebook.

Here’s a good story with her: one night after a 7 hour shift I was upset about my supervisor(who for sure is in a higher position than my love interest, btw)making me stay to do my side job when I couldn’t earlier bc I had so many deliveries. The girl I like was there too and she calmed me down, gave me a hug, and helped me with my side job. I was so grateful for that that I sent her a message the next day to thank her.


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31 Aug 2022, 8:20 pm

Please don't get upset if she doesn't want to get romantic with you. I can't tell if she wants to or not....but she might not. She might just want to be your friend.

But, on the other hand, it does show that you do have potential for success because you could inspire a woman to be your friend. I feel this is more important than people think it is.

I hope things proceed well with her, no matter the outcome.



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31 Aug 2022, 8:55 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Some people might say it's inappropriate. But these kinds of romances happen all the time.
this line pretty much sums up how hard it is to deceifer whether or not a relationship with her would be appropriate.

Maybe the only way to find out one way or the other is to ask her out. She might say yes or it could totally backfire on me. Regardless, I have no way of knowing right now.


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31 Aug 2022, 9:22 pm

Honestly, I would avoid asking her out until you are VERY confident that she’s interested. It could make for a very awkward work situation otherwise.


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01 Sep 2022, 12:30 am

You can't control who you fall in love with.


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01 Sep 2022, 6:16 am

Twilightprincess wrote:
Honestly, I would avoid asking her out until you are VERY confident that she’s interested. It could make for a very awkward work situation otherwise.

Agreed.



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01 Sep 2022, 8:07 am

I would say: build up a friendship.

No matter what others say, friendship CAN lead to romance.



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07 Sep 2022, 1:02 pm

Depends: Are they hot? Is it worth gambling your job on if things don't work out? If you can easily find another job to replace your income if your hours get cut or you get fired etc if things don't work out between you and you don't really care about losing any other connections to your workplace, then go ahead and date them & have your fun.


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08 Sep 2022, 7:28 am

This thread is a moot point at this juncture.....



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08 Sep 2022, 8:14 am

Yeah. It did not age well.


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08 Sep 2022, 11:15 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
This thread is a moot point at this juncture.....

??

There's no update/outcome/resolution etc posted - why do you say that?


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08 Sep 2022, 2:07 pm

^see my post in the haven. She got herself on my bad side.


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