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27 Jun 2014, 1:12 pm

When I was at Small Group this past Monday, I happened to mention that I could use a haircut but that I hate getting one because people touch me and think they can talk to me. This elicited some laughs, especially from a girl who happens to be a hairdresser. She said, and others agreed, that it would be interesting for me to write up something about what clients would like hairdressers to know; sort of like those articles about what hairdressers would like clients to know. They think it would be funny and, to be perfectly honest, it probably would be if I left out the explanations and only included the one phrase or so. However, while maintaining the comedic aspect of the article, I would also like to add some things in that are more serious and aimed at enlightening people to the reality of why some, if not most, individuals with Aspergers do not like haircuts.

It would be absolutely wonderful if you guys could share with me what you dislike about them and what would help make them easier.



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27 Jun 2014, 1:33 pm

In addition to the having to make talk, I'd say when they finish up and spray you with smelly hairspray. Sometimes if you're going to a wedding or someplace important, I guess you need to keep the styling in place, but otherwise I'd rather not have to keep smelling it the rest of that day and maybe the next.


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27 Jun 2014, 2:12 pm

I hate having my hair cut and try to keep it to a minimum of 3/4 times a year. And hate the blow dry afterwards even more (standard procedure here, I try to avoid it when I can..)
have sensory issues: hairs, noise, etc... so glad when I am home again. Safe for another 4 months....



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27 Jun 2014, 2:21 pm

Don't think it's just ASD people either. My mum hates having her hair cut at a salon - she always gets me to do it because it's a really simple style. I hate having my hair cut too - because just think when's the last time you went to a hairdresser and didn't have to do the dreaded 'small talk'? Never, I bet. :p
Plus the last time I actually let someone else cut my hair, I ended up with something that was obviously a girls style. I like having my hair fairly long, around chin/shoulder length.. but she cut it into a girly bob and told me I looked great. -_- Then I ended up going back to ask for something else, and ended up with my hair quite a bit shorter than I'd have liked. Maybe I'm picky and controlling, but it's probably in their job description to do what people ask for, isn't it?
So yeah, I avoided having my hair cut as much as possible, and now I've started just cutting it myself, which surprisingly often turns out better than it ever did when someone else tried to cut it for me.



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27 Jun 2014, 2:27 pm

am LFA,not aspie and love having hair shaved by self every few days,love the feeling of vibration on head from the clippers.

however it took years to get to that point [which was only early last year],before that support staff had used manual clippers,and before that;scissors.and before that had gone to a hair dressers who was a specialist in special needs.
have got extreme sensory issues with the tugging feeling from hair being cut so equipment needs to be super sharp and oiled well.

the person cutting hair needs to go through each step of what will happen first and keep going over them,the person cutting hair needs to make sure music and other electronic equipment isnt in use at the same time and the appointment is booked at a quiet time so there isnt anyone else getting their hair done.


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27 Jun 2014, 2:32 pm

I'm more bothered by the COST of a haircut. 8O



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27 Jun 2014, 2:35 pm

I really need to get my hair cut, but I keep putting it off because I really don't want to be trapped in a chair for that long having to make small talk.



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27 Jun 2014, 4:26 pm

I cut my hair at home with clippers, because I know myself the best to know how I want my hair to look.


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27 Jun 2014, 4:37 pm

I HATE and I mean HATE getting my hair cut A) I don't like anybody getting that close to me and B.) I don't feel like talking about my self it's a hair cut I'm getting not publishing a biography. I so what I normally do is grow it out to a point I can't deal with it then get it cut real short but still looking normal which averages to about 2 cuts per year Fall/winter and late spring/early summer.


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27 Jun 2014, 4:52 pm

When I moved here to Portland I went to a local salon, and she massaged my head and neck, and talked and talked. It was very stressful for me. She was nice as could be, and I just couldn't say shhh... and don't touch me there. I bought clippers on Amazon and cut my own hair for a few years. My relatives thought that was weird and I could tell they didn't think I did a very good job. A new place opened near where I buy most of my groceries. Vietnamese people. They offered an $11 haircut for men. I've gotten half a dozen haircuts there now. It takes about 5 minutes. They do a good job. The woman who gives the haircut is very pretty. And it's easy to tip $4 and get a big smile.


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27 Jun 2014, 5:02 pm

I love the scalp massage part of getting my hair washed. I just sort of melt every time.

I'm glad it's the norm for women not to get buzzcuts though, because I don't like the sound of electric clippers when they're not right next to my ear.

Besides the social aspects of small talk putting me on edge, I have issues with audio filtration, which means trying to have any sort of conversation in a typical hair salon is just about enough to make me want to tear my hair out. Typical hair salons have a radio going, those big things in the corner women who get dye jobs have to sit under, electric clippers, etc.



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27 Jun 2014, 6:28 pm

lol I don't like getting a haircut either, I always cut my hair myself (I keep my hair either long or semi long). Last time I had a haircut from a hairdresser was over 30 years ago.


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27 Jun 2014, 6:32 pm

JoelFan wrote:
I HATE and I mean HATE getting my hair cut A) I don't like anybody getting that close to me and B.) I don't feel like talking about my self it's a hair cut I'm getting not publishing a biography. I so what I normally do is grow it out to a point I can't deal with it then get it cut real short but still looking normal which averages to about 2 cuts per year Fall/winter and late spring/early summer.


I cut my husband's hair but I'm not good at it, I just use a hair clipper (its perfect because he wants it very short), like this one:

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P.S. last time was a few days ago, and I gave him a nice mohawk hehehehe, sadly he didn't want to keep it so I had to cut that part too lol.


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27 Jun 2014, 8:45 pm

I look for a barber who will get it done QUICKLY with little to no chitchat. I'd rather have a haircut of mediocre quality than a good one that takes too long.
It's a sensory issue thing plus the closeness drives me up a wall. I'd let my hair grow long but past experience with having long hair brought sensory issues, too.


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27 Jun 2014, 8:54 pm

I try to keep it to twice a year, then right down to Mia Farrow in Rosemary's Baby short. Long hair really irritates me (especially my bangs which are currently pinned back.) But I hate haircuts more. My current hairdresser is extrememly efficient and focused. I like that. She doesn't make a lot of smalltalk and will often talk to her co-workers rather than me, which is great.



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27 Jun 2014, 9:03 pm

Raptor wrote:
I'd let my hair grow long but past experience with having long hair brought sensory issues, too.


Strangely for me its the opposite, I don't like feeling the air on my ears (especially wind when outside, even if its light wind), it bugs the heck out of me, even in bed I usually place my hair on my ears.


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