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azzazinator
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28 Feb 2016, 2:46 pm

Sounds too familiar ..

Usually I'm just too late

When I try even harder, I tend to start talking almost exactly at the same time as sombody else.
But I'm almost always the first one to detect the collison and stop talking ...
Often I just forget what I wanted to say ...

I wonder if I'm just to slow, or the if the others are picking up some clue, that I dont....

On the phone, it's a nightmare.


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28 Feb 2016, 3:54 pm

Occasionally I do but I am very apologetic after doing so, especially to strangers and casual acquaintances. Unfortunately if I don't voice my opinion right away, I find that I forget what I had intended to say. Thus I can either be rather insolent and outspoken or almost mute. Whilst I cannot speak on behalf of the rest of the autistic population, I personally find that my thought processes are usually all over the place.


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29 Feb 2016, 5:28 am

I interrupt people sometimes, I don't mean to be rude, it just kind of happens sometimes. It seems almost like I can be a little bit unaware of the fact that I'm doing it until it's too late and I already started talking over someone. I think it has something to do with needing to think too much about speech, maybe being a little impatient, and just getting the rhythm on a conversation a little bit wrong too. I always feel bad about it and apologize or ask what they were saying.



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29 Feb 2016, 11:23 am

beakybird wrote:
Constantly. If I don't say something when I think of it I'll either forget by time it's my turn, or I won't hear anything you say because I'll be concentrating on not forgetting my point.

I'm a s**t conversationalist unless you can talk over me back.


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02 Mar 2016, 7:49 am

Yes, most of the time. People get very angry sometimes and I can't blame them. But I can't control myself.


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hmk66
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02 Mar 2016, 8:30 am

Grahzmann wrote:
I try to find breaks in the conversation to speak up but I usually just end up talking over someone anyway.

Same to me. Let's say, person A and B are talking with eachother. Person A is speaking now, B is listening. I want to join the conversation because I like the subject they are discussing. A finishes talking and B is replying. No time for me to join. Maybe after a few more sentences. Then there is a gap of a few seconds. I start talking to B. A ignores that and start talking while I am yet talking.

Another situation. I am talking with person A. Person B enters and interrupts immediately. At work, I would only accept that if the interruption is work related and my chat is not. In other cases (both subjects are either both work related or neither of them are) I want the other person to wait. Or... person B waits for a gap. As soon as A or I finish, my chances to continue the conversation are lost. A and B are talking to eachother and push me out of the conversation.



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02 Mar 2016, 8:37 am

Have been very "good" at it most of my life. I try not to (I´m pissed off myself, when I am interrupted...so), - but I often misjudge, whether a break in the conversation means, that I can talk.


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02 Mar 2016, 8:44 am

Yes I do much to the annoyance of my family. Even on the phone I do it.

When i want to join a convo my brain gets faster just looking to butt in, and worrying if I don't I won't
get to make my point, or I will totally forget what I wanted to say.



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02 Mar 2016, 8:46 am

Occasionally I might want to blurt something not appropriate and have to hold back as much as possible and usually end up grinning and humming something quietly.



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02 Mar 2016, 8:46 am

I've been known to :wink:



azzazinator
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02 Mar 2016, 9:37 am

hmk66 wrote:
Another situation. I am talking with person A. Person B enters and interrupts immediately. At work, I would only accept that if the interruption is work related and my chat is not. In other cases (both subjects are either both work related or neither of them are) I want the other person to wait. Or... person B waits for a gap. As soon as A or I finish, my chances to continue the conversation are lost. A and B are talking to eachother and push me out of the conversation.


When person A accepts the interruption by person B, it always makes me wonder if person A do that because he/she prefers to talk to person A instead of me.. ?


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02 Mar 2016, 10:49 am

All the time. It just happens without thinking. I think people have just come to accept it.


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