Is mainstream college best for an aspie

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09 Jan 2020, 1:06 pm

will I get along with people in a mainstream college and would I be able to cope cause I don’t think I would



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09 Jan 2020, 2:11 pm

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Is mainstream college best for an aspie?
It depends on the aspie. College worked for me because I focused on scholastics, not socializing; but if I wanted to mingle with people, I sought out the RPG gaming groups and played AD&D or Traveller.
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Will I get along with people in a mainstream college?
That depends on you. I purposely limited my social activities, and did not strive to acquire friends or 'relationships'.
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Would I be able to cope?
Again, that depends on you. Any social anxiety disorder might distract you, and since most colleges have classes in different buildings, agoraphobia might be a problem. You will likely be bombarded with sensory stimuli that others will seem to ignore completely. No one can say for sure until you are living and studying in a college environment.
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I don’t think I would.
If you think you will fail, then you already have. Try not to fucus on failure, but on the wonder and excitement of learning new things. That helped get me through college.


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09 Jan 2020, 2:25 pm

Fnord wrote:
aspie 777 wrote:
Is mainstream college best for an aspie?
It depends on the aspie. College worked for me because I focused on scholastics, not socializing; but if I wanted to mingle with people, I sought out the RPG gaming groups and played AD&D or Traveller.
aspie 777 wrote:
Will I get along with people in a mainstream college?
That depends on you. I purposely limited my social activities, and did not strive to acquire friends or 'relationships'.
aspie 777 wrote:
Would I be able to cope?
Again, that depends on you. Any social anxiety disorder might distract you, and since most colleges have classes in different buildings, agoraphobia might be a problem. You will likely be bombarded with sensory stimuli that others will seem to ignore completely. No one can say for sure until you are living and studying in a college environment.
aspie 777 wrote:
I don’t think I would.
If you think you will fail, then you already have. Try not to fucus on failure, but on the wonder and excitement of learning new things. That helped get me through college.

I went to a mainstream college for 3 hours then packed in lol don’t know why I did but I quite liked it but since then my anxiety as gotten a lot worse plus I’ll be in a different college cause I’m in a different area



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09 Jan 2020, 6:17 pm

Some autistics cope in mainstream college and some autistics don't cope in mainstream college

The world contains a lot of autistics

Strangers on the internet do not know if you could cope in college

Strangers on the internet don't know you

Strangers on the internet are not precognitive



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19 Jan 2020, 1:33 pm

It depends on you and what you do make college work. As others said, if you focus on academics and don't try to be the star of social life, you would likely be fine and might make a few friends who are similar to you. I had no issues with college, after getting over the first semester jitters actually loved it. However, I do not think I am cut out for the dorm life, so I lived off campus and focused on classes and interacting with people who shared my interests.



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19 Jan 2020, 2:04 pm

aspie 777 wrote:
will I get along with people in a mainstream college and would I be able to cope cause I don’t think I would


I wasn't able, I should have just started working or went to some kind of trade school or technical program. I have things more on track now, just feel a little late and like I wasted a lot of time with the whole college fiasco. But of course no use dwelling on the past.


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19 Jan 2020, 2:47 pm

I'm like most responses here except the social aspect was forced on me rather than a choice between studies and socialising, also didn't help that it was one of the universities known for 'partying hard' and getting drunk doing pub crawls and hanging out with friends/ random people was a rite of passage, therefore if you didn't participate you wouldn't succeed. Very silly rule that lecturers and professors seemed to play along with and just ultimately ended up with debt, and ruining my chances of a career in any field realistically.



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22 May 2021, 7:07 am

I focus on getting the schoolwork done. I don't focus on the socializing, though like in a lab or group assignment, there are times I will have to work with up to 3 other students. I am choosing in-state public schools so I can lower the tuition cost and not need so many loans to pay for it. I am also sticking to subsidized loans and not taking unsubsidized loans, or worse private loans, that I can't pay on immediately. I am on a low income, but am willing to work over the summer for 6-8 weeks, within Social Security's income limits, to make up the tuition I can't otherwise pay. I am not someone that is going to go to any party with my oversensitivity to touch, and I definitely will not get drunk, as I was taught the dangers at an early age. I also plan to live off campus, as sharing a room will be the worst thing for me with my ASD and other medical issues.