Saying the steps of doing a task in your head?

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26 Jun 2021, 12:50 pm

I notice I do this a lot at work, even with things I've done tons of times. I find myself "talking" myself through the steps of doing something in my head. Even typing in passwords into my computer I will spell it out in my head as I am typing. I think it is because I'm afraid I will forget or mess something up if I don't do so. I also will talk in my head "ok do this then that, don't forget that" even at work with tasks I do every day it doesn't matter. Work gets so anxiety inducing because they don't care if you are doing a good job, they only notice if something gets messed up. I don't think I tend to do it as much at home, but I'm usually not doing anything that has too many steps to it, and also I'm not usually stressed out at home.


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17 Jul 2021, 2:54 pm

Yeah, I do that if it's complicated. I think it's more due to not trusting my memory, and maybe a mild ADD.



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18 Jul 2021, 12:40 pm

Whenever I need to keep my thoughts clear I'll put them into words in my head (which would often include the steps of doing a task), though I thought that was normal. Some people claim to think in words, presumably they say everything in their heads.

I also find it a helpful clarifier to speak my thoughts out loud rather than just speak them with my "mind's mouth." I sometimes dislike it when I'm pondering something difficult alone and people move within earshot of me, because I'm not too sure if it's socially acceptable to talk to myself.



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18 Jul 2021, 3:28 pm

Yes, talk myself through most things - mainly in my head though sometimes out loud if I am on my own.


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18 Jul 2021, 4:23 pm

I talk things through in my mind, or if particularly scatter brained that day, I'll say it out loud.

If I'm having trouble remembering a task, such as having to move from my office to home, or even to another room, I will saying to myself, out loud or under my breath, over and over again, "stamps, stamps, stamps, stamps" until I get the stamps. Then I have to say "envelope, envelope, envelope" until I get the envelope. I can usually manage from there. :D

It feels weird or even stupid to have to do this, but at least I am at an age where I really don't care about that stuff anymore. Whatever works is my motto.


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18 Jul 2021, 7:27 pm

Blazing Star, we are in the same boat. I wonder if it's our age, or if we have ADD tendencies. Some days I have to chant "pay attention, pay attention, pay attention" when I'm driving because my mind wanders and I almost get into accidents. Scatterbrained is a good description.

Lady Strange, might you have ADD? There may be different degrees of it as there seem to be with so many malfunctions.



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18 Jul 2021, 7:29 pm

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19 Jul 2021, 3:19 am

Lady Strange wrote:
I notice I do this a lot at work, even with things I've done tons of times. I find myself "talking" myself through the steps of doing something in my head. Even typing in passwords into my computer I will spell it out in my head as I am typing. I think it is because I'm afraid I will forget or mess something up if I don't do so. I also will talk in my head "ok do this then that, don't forget that" even at work with tasks I do every day it doesn't matter. Work gets so anxiety inducing because they don't care if you are doing a good job, they only notice if something gets messed up. I don't think I tend to do it as much at home, but I'm usually not doing anything that has too many steps to it, and also I'm not usually stressed out at home.


I also do this. It's incredibly annoying in fact so much so often it causes nme so much stress, anxiety and depression, on top of feeling like an autistic retard, s**t c**t, scum and often to f**k off as everyone hates me, literally. I can't stand this anymore and am totally immensely suicidal! If I had a handgun I wouldn't hesitate to kill my self. I just want a pain free death. Plus I'm conscious about not wanting to traumatise others. I'm traumatised enough.. I've nobody in my life.



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19 Jul 2021, 7:40 pm

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Blazing Star, we are in the same boat. I wonder if it's our age, or if we have ADD tendencies. Some days I have to chant "pay attention, pay attention, pay attention" when I'm driving because my mind wanders and I almost get into accidents. Scatterbrained is a good description.

Lady Strange, might you have ADD? There may be different degrees of it as there seem to be with so many malfunctions.


I suspect some of it is age.


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19 Jul 2021, 8:50 pm

Not sure if I have ADD, heck maybe I do I don't know. I always have to write stuff down too to remember it. If I can get away with it without looking crazy I talk out loud to myself all the time.

Danusaurus, I am sorry you are having such a rough time. All this can be just crap to deal with, and there are plenty of times I just want to give up too. I'm glad I've found all of you because its good to talk to others who can understand.


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