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KitLily
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03 Aug 2022, 11:24 am

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Majority of people my own age don't want include me in there friendship groups but people over 40 except me a lot more :?


I'm the same, except now I'm 50+ it's people over 70 who seem to accept me. Or younger people, maybe under 30. It's very odd.


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03 Aug 2022, 11:29 am

KitLily wrote:
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Majority of people my own age don't want include me in there friendship groups but people over 40 except me a lot more :?


I'm the same, except now I'm 50+ it's people over 70 who seem to accept me. Or younger people, maybe under 30. It's very odd.




Most of my friends used to be younger than me like early 20s five years ago or around my own age at least but not anymore. I am stuck with old folks these days which really sucks when your only in your early 30s.


Mind you I think the younger people were not true friends at all and least for you people under 30 accept you which is not the case for me. People under 30 either take the piss out of me or label me a pedophile when I try and Socialise with them.

One of my current love interests is 68 and another 59 8O



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03 Aug 2022, 11:38 am

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Most of my friends used to be younger than me like early 20s five years ago or around my own age at least but not anymore. I am stuck with old folks these days which really sucks when your only in your early 30s.

Mind you I think the younger people were not true friends at all and least for you people under 30 accept you which is not the case for me. People under 30 either take the piss out of me or label me a pedophile when I try and Socialise with them.


Yes that does sound annoying. Hopefully the old folks are young in outlook and not too staid.

I guess that's where I'm fortunate to be a woman: I'm unlikely to be labelled a paedophile when I talk to young people. They more likely see me as their mother. It's harder for men to make friends with other people due to that situation, perhaps?

I'm not sure what to suggest, as I'm hopeless at making friends myself. Hm. I will think about it.


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03 Aug 2022, 11:45 am

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Why do you want to be included with people who obviously don't want to include you.



Because I would actually like to have some friends who are my own age for once.


I mean how would you feel if all your friends and also love interests we elderly compared to you?


I'm not disputing your predicament. I'm just curious as to why you keep trying with this particular group who clearly don't want you in their group. I think the old man may have a point.



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03 Aug 2022, 11:46 am

KitLily wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
Most of my friends used to be younger than me like early 20s five years ago or around my own age at least but not anymore. I am stuck with old folks these days which really sucks when your only in your early 30s.

Mind you I think the younger people were not true friends at all and least for you people under 30 accept you which is not the case for me. People under 30 either take the piss out of me or label me a pedophile when I try and Socialise with them.


Yes that does sound annoying. Hopefully the old folks are young in outlook and not too staid.

I guess that's where I'm fortunate to be a woman: I'm unlikely to be labelled a paedophile when I talk to young people. They more likely see me as their mother. It's harder for men to make friends with other people due to that situation, perhaps?

I'm not sure what to suggest, as I'm hopeless at making friends myself. Hm. I will think about it.



If young people under 30 see you as there mother what would they see me as when trying to socalise with them? A father figure perhaps?

Predictably it's usually other young men who point the pedophile slur at me. Although a year when I said to this woman who is also 32 "Age is just a number" she called me a kiddy fiddler"



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03 Aug 2022, 11:47 am

babybird wrote:
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Why do you want to be included with people who obviously don't want to include you.



Because I would actually like to have some friends who are my own age for once.


I mean how would you feel if all your friends and also love interests we elderly compared to you?


I'm not disputing your predicament. I'm just curious as to why you keep trying with this particular group who clearly don't want you in their group. I think the old man may have a point.


One of the people in the young group I have known for 22 years and went to school with him as well.



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03 Aug 2022, 11:50 am

I have good friends who are older, and acquaintances in their twenties at church. But hardly anyone my own age.



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03 Aug 2022, 3:13 pm

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If young people under 30 see you as there mother what would they see me as when trying to socalise with them? A father figure perhaps?


I don't know. You said they called you a paedophile. I think you'd have to be old with grey hair for them to see you as a father figure.

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Predictably it's usually other young men who point the pedophile slur at me. Although a year when I said to this woman who is also 32 "Age is just a number" she called me a kiddy fiddler"


Such people sound like ones to avoid IMO. They sound immature. Maybe the fact that older people like you is a compliment: you're too mature for those your age.


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