Could I be asexual cause I never want to date anyone?

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05 Sep 2022, 12:53 am

I honestly have no idea if I'm asexual but I know I never want to date anyone. I'm around 40 and never had a meaningful relationship and I never want to be in one at all now or in the future. Does that make me asexual?



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05 Sep 2022, 1:18 am

Do you feel sexual attraction towards people?

If not, then you are certainly asexual.

There are degrees of asexuality.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality



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06 Sep 2022, 5:28 am

When you don't want dating with anyone and don't need this (you feel it) - it's called aromantic. Asexual - it's when you don't want any sexual "activity" and sexual attraction towards people.

Maybe you're aromantic?



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06 Sep 2022, 8:30 pm

It's possible to be both aromantic and asexual, of course. Some people are just one or the other, and some are both.


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10 Sep 2022, 9:13 am

It really depends on WHY you don't want to date. If its the actual dating part you don't like, that doesn't make you asexual.



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22 Sep 2022, 2:18 pm

My brother is asexual/aromatic but I wonder if it's because he's scared of getting his heart broken. He's the sort who doesn't deal with any sort of failure or rejection, due to his severe depression and lack of self-esteem. But he seems happy with not dating, so maybe he is generally aromantic.


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23 Sep 2022, 6:12 am

If you just enjoy being alone, then you might be a singlist.
If you don't like people, you might be aromantic(but that doesn't mean you know nothing about romance!).
If you like only yourself, you might be a narcissist(no offence~).
If you have no interest in making love with people, you might be asextual.
If you like only to make love with yourself, then care not what others say.
Mark this: what you think you are is way more important than what you really are.You can be all of the above.You can also be none.



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25 Sep 2022, 8:53 pm

I find having friends is easier than having a relationship.



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28 Sep 2022, 4:52 pm

There's is a Facebook page called "Asexuals 30 and Over"
for anyone 30+ who identify as asexual.

Here is the link for anyone who wants to join:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/277579996395801

My NT sister is openly asexual, but whenever our bigoted uncles visit, they begin by asking her if she has found herself a boyfriend, that asexuality isn't real (that she's making it all up, you get the idea) and that she is using her age (she is 35 to me being 32) to get out of wanting a boyfriend.


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