25 Places/Ideas To Meet A Woman To Date

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05 Oct 2022, 9:07 pm

Here are 25 places to potentially meet a girl to date, from the conventional to the unconventional.


1. By joining a fraternity. Works best if you're extroverted and like to drink.

2. Joining a club/organization that's related to your interest. You can meet women with the same interests that way.

3. Joining a church. Works best if you're religious.

4. Joining a co-ed church small group. Smaller groups means that it's easy to get to know people there more quickly.

5. The mainstream dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc... Works best if you're conventionally attractive.

6. Joining a bunch of autistic dating sites. Probably need to be okay with a long-distance relationship.

7. Meeting a girl on a game that you both play. You'd be surprised that this can work sometimes.

8. Meeting a girl on a forum site you both visit. I have met people who have met this way before.

9. Getting a mail order bride. Would only recommend this option if you're older and have tried every other option.

10. Consider traveling abroad to meet a girl in a different country. Can definitely work for some men.

11. Trying to meet a girl in SE Asia. Works best if you're white.

12. Going to the bar or nightclub. If you're extroverted, like to drink, and are fairly attractive, this might work well.

13. Meeting a girl in a class you're both in. Largely depends on the context.

14. Make a girlfriend in Sims 4. Works best if you're ForeverAlone.

15. Wait for robot girlfriends to become more advanced. Also works best if you're ForeverAlone.

16. Meeting a girl while volunteering somewhere.

17. Meeting somebody through friends. This might work well for men who have a lot of friends and are reasonably social.

18. Asking your friends to set you up or ask if they know anybody. This could potentially work.

19. Going to a speed-dating event? This is assuming they're still a thing.

20. Hiring a dating coach. If you have the money and live in a bigger city.

21. Going to a matchmaker agency. Probably works better if you live in a bigger city as well.

22. FetLife. Works best for men who are into fetishes and are primarily looking for sex.

23. Start your own porn company. Want to get laid? Simply start your own porn company, haha.

24. Meeting a girl at work. Works best if it's a temporary job you have no interest in staying in long term.

25. Turn gay and date guys instead.



There you have it, 25 potential ways to meet a girl. The End



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05 Oct 2022, 11:22 pm

Join a life drawing group, where each person takes turns posing in the nude for the others to draw.

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06 Oct 2022, 8:26 am

How'd you meet your wife?



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06 Oct 2022, 10:02 am

rse92 wrote:
How'd you meet your wife?



It all started at a bar

I saw my future wife at a bar so I walked up to her, and at first did a flirty introduction and then I began to flirt with her and compliment her appearance. Before you know it, we had our first kiss and that’s when I made the decision to ask her to be my girlfriend and to my surprise, she said yes.

We immediately went on our first date afterwards at the local park. I found out that she’s romantic and family oriented and we flirted some more, kissed some more. And that’s when I realized that I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I want her to be the mother of our future children. So I got down on one knee and proposed to her and she said yes!! We immediately got married and moved in together shortly afterwards. Now I’m a father of 3.


Yeah that’s basically how I met my wife in Sims 4.



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06 Oct 2022, 10:08 am

Real life often is not like what happens on SIMS 4.

It would be nice if it was....



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06 Oct 2022, 12:00 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Real life often is not like what happens on SIMS 4.

It would be nice if it was....



If dating and getting laid were as easy as it was in Sims 4, there’d be no such thing as men like Elliot Rodger and Alek Minassian. The incel community wouldn’t even exist either.



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07 Oct 2022, 10:54 pm

This list is seemingly very geared toward NTs, not Autistics. Most of us are too noise sensitive for bars or fraternities; a higher percentage of us are atheist/agnostic compared to NTs (at least from what I’ve seen); we’re more likely to be un- or underemployed so we can’t afford dating coaches, matchmaking services, mail-order brides, or flights to SE Asia; and a lot of us don’t have friends who can set them up with another friend (in my case it’s not that I don’t have friends, it’s that practically all of my friends are LGBTQ+ while I’m straight, and they don’t know any straight women, and all the bi women they know are already taken). And I wouldn’t recommend any guy ask out a gal they work with, since if you ask the wrong gal you could easily get hit with a sexual harassment reprimand.


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08 Oct 2022, 6:36 pm

Zakatar wrote:
This list is seemingly very geared toward NTs, not Autistics. Most of us are too noise sensitive for bars or fraternities; a higher percentage of us are atheist/agnostic compared to NTs (at least from what I’ve seen); we’re more likely to be un- or underemployed so we can’t afford dating coaches, matchmaking services, mail-order brides, or flights to SE Asia; and a lot of us don’t have friends who can set them up with another friend (in my case it’s not that I don’t have friends, it’s that practically all of my friends are LGBTQ+ while I’m straight, and they don’t know any straight women, and all the bi women they know are already taken). And I wouldn’t recommend any guy ask out a gal they work with, since if you ask the wrong gal you could easily get hit with a sexual harassment reprimand.
I agree. Most of those are ideas for getting NT girlfriends & much more likely to work for NT guys. Some ideas I have that may be more workable for Aspie guys are :arrow:

~ Join a group for disabilities that you relate somewhat to like autism, your autism comorbid issues(like depression, anxiety, OCD), for mental disabilities in general, or for physical issues. The group could be in person or online, maybe something like this forum for example.

~ Take in a woman who needs a place to stay. I seen that work for a disabled guy on another forum. He was very indepdendent but needed someone around just in case something happened. She fell for him after a bit cuz of how sweet & respectable he was towards her. I woulda done that if I had my own place when I was single which was sorta in the works but but dragging on. I knew a couple women online who woulda been interested.


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08 Oct 2022, 7:01 pm

Zakatar wrote:
This list is seemingly very geared toward NTs, not Autistics. Most of us are too noise sensitive for bars or fraternities; a higher percentage of us are atheist/agnostic compared to NTs (at least from what I’ve seen); we’re more likely to be un- or underemployed so we can’t afford dating coaches, matchmaking services, mail-order brides, or flights to SE Asia; and a lot of us don’t have friends who can set them up with another friend (in my case it’s not that I don’t have friends, it’s that practically all of my friends are LGBTQ+ while I’m straight, and they don’t know any straight women, and all the bi women they know are already taken). And I wouldn’t recommend any guy ask out a gal they work with, since if you ask the wrong gal you could easily get hit with a sexual harassment reprimand.



Unfortunately, the world isn't going to cater for us. It will to a certain extent, but at the end of the day, you're eventually going to have to learn how to adapt and play a similar game that neurotypicals play.



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09 Oct 2022, 12:09 pm

You seem to have a lot to say about how others should go about being successful in dating for someone with so little dating success himself.



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10 Oct 2022, 9:34 pm

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
You seem to have a lot to say about how others should go about being successful in dating for someone with so little dating success himself.
Very insightful. You live up to your SN :wink:


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11 Oct 2022, 9:43 pm

Meeting girls on some forums is a good option.



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12 Oct 2022, 9:36 am

Would the SEA route work for me if I'm not white (I'm a mix between Baloch, Arab and Swahili ethnically) but I'm from a 1st world western nation and can make above the average American salary with remote work? I'm also below average in looks all around and slightly short. Is there any country you'd suggest I move to in order to have a dating life?



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12 Oct 2022, 11:19 am

AutomatedStar wrote:
Would the SEA route work for me if I'm not white (I'm a mix between Baloch, Arab and Swahili ethnically) but I'm from a 1st world western nation and can make above the average American salary with remote work? I'm also below average in looks all around and slightly short. Is there any country you'd suggest I move to in order to have a dating life?



Hmmm, I'm not sure, to be honest. You might want to do your research on which country might be the best fit for you.


But I was talking to one guy who's done the international route and he said that generally speaking, to reduce the chances of getting scammed or only being used for a green card, you want to go for someone who is around your age and attractiveness level. For age, don't go for someone who's more than 10 years younger than you. As for physical attractiveness, stay within 2-3 points of your attractiveness score. So if you're a 5/10, I wouldn't go for women who are higher than a 7 or 8.


The guys who get scammed, they go for young and really attractive women despite being old and ugly. That's why it's best to stay within your age and attractiveness range to reduce the chances of being scammed/used for green card.



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12 Oct 2022, 12:58 pm

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AutomatedStar wrote:
Would the SEA route work for me if I'm not white (I'm a mix between Baloch, Arab and Swahili ethnically) but I'm from a 1st world western nation and can make above the average American salary with remote work? I'm also below average in looks all around and slightly short. Is there any country you'd suggest I move to in order to have a dating life?



Hmmm, I'm not sure, to be honest. You might want to do your research on which country might be the best fit for you.


But I was talking to one guy who's done the international route and he said that generally speaking, to reduce the chances of getting scammed or only being used for a green card, you want to go for someone who is around your age and attractiveness level. For age, don't go for someone who's more than 10 years younger than you. As for physical attractiveness, stay within 2-3 points of your attractiveness score. So if you're a 5/10, I wouldn't go for women who are higher than a 7 or 8.


The guys who get scammed, they go for young and really attractive women despite being old and ugly. That's why it's best to stay within your age and attractiveness range to reduce the chances of being scammed/used for green card.


I figured. I don't really care for looks much anyway but I think fiscal security plays a huge role either way hence why it's easier to date out there to begin with. Thanks for the advice though



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13 Oct 2022, 1:03 am

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22. FetLife. Works best for men who are into fetishes and are primarily looking for sex.


Keep in mind, in these communities, it's frowned upon for people to go there primarily looking for a girlfriend or sex. The best approach is to go there to genuinely meet friends. Sometimes things happen, but don't go in with the expectation that it should.

^ The same applies to groups, organizations, church and even bars/clubs. You go there because you enjoy those places; not to try to pickup women.