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Crystal1414
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27 Oct 2022, 3:24 pm

A guy I dated multiple times and never want to date again is my friend now. But I think he has become obsessed. Hes admitted multiple times how much he loves me, he wants to buy me gifts, etc. I said I loved him as a friend. Hes ok with that but I'm the only one for him. I feel like I should block him. I cant date him and he says we are one because we think so similar. I'm getting weirded out. We arent that similar tbh. I dont know why hes suddenly so into me. I kind of wish we could just be friends. That's partly why I dont want to block him. He also knows where I live.



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27 Oct 2022, 3:32 pm

In this situation, just being friends doesn't work.
He obviously wants more.
I think you should listen to your gut instinct (being weirded out) and block him.


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27 Oct 2022, 10:51 pm

You can't be just friends with someone who is intensely interested in you romantically.

I'd advis telling him you can't be around him if he can't respect that you're not interested in him romantically, and if he doesn't change his behaviour, cut him off.



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02 Nov 2022, 8:25 pm

If you really do not want a romantic relationship with him, you need to set firm boundaries. Let him know that if he was a real friend he would respect just being your friend & if he cant then you'll have to avoid him.


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03 Nov 2022, 3:29 pm

Crystal1414 wrote:
A guy I dated multiple times and never want to date again is my friend now. But I think he has become obsessed. Hes admitted multiple times how much he loves me, he wants to buy me gifts, etc. I said I loved him as a friend. Hes ok with that but I'm the only one for him. I feel like I should block him. I cant date him and he says we are one because we think so similar. I'm getting weirded out. We arent that similar tbh. I dont know why hes suddenly so into me. I kind of wish we could just be friends. That's partly why I dont want to block him. He also knows where I live.


Sometimes it is just better to say goodbye, particularly in scenarios like this where one person has stopped feeling romantically for another, after previously having been romantically entwined, whilst the other person still has feelings.